as an adhd-haver, everything adhd people experience is, in fact, an adhd thing. but also a lot of people want more from their friendships and romances than they're getting. i don't have a lot of hard evidence for this, but i think a number of features of the age of what is optimistically called Late Capitalism conspire to make this a very common experience. and -- again, little hard evidence -- i think the general solution for individuals goes like this: first, try to understand and be honest with yourself about what exactly it is that you desire, give a direction to the yearning that plagues you. next: break free of your fear of others, and give love readily and truly; ask to see others; make your hugs a little too long; say true, difficult things even if you don't know beforehand how they'll be received; when you see hurt, consider if you're able to help. finally: you can't make everyone like you, and you probably wouldn't want that anyway. if you're not getting as much from a relationship as you're putting in, don't take that as evidence of your failings as a person. que sera, sera. you needn't "cut them off" like a lot of today's relationship advice says, but perhaps temper your expectations.