Even with civil endings to my relationships, those relationships ended for a reason. There's some fundamental incompatibility which is going to impact everything else. Several of my exes are bipolar and I don't know what their manic phases bring. Everyone I've dated in the past decade has previously dated someone abusive and that might be the person or type of person giving them a ride to the DSA meeting. That's all wholly unnecessary baggage which means infosec and opsec risk if you're doing something on the edge of legality. I'm avoiding them for the same reason I use a pseudonym here instead of my legal name and wear a mask at protests.
there's a fundamental romantic incompatibility between me and almost every friend I ever have had or ever will have (excluding the ones who became/become lovers at some point). being incompatible in a romantic relationship does not, in fact, necessarily impact non-romantic interactions.
do you treat everyone with a mental disorder the same way, or just the ones you banged at some point? because they have bipolar disorder you can't go to the same climbing gym as them? almost 5% of people have it my man, if more than 20 people regularly attend the place chances are you're going to run into one and, chances are, you'll never know.
Everyone I've dated in the past decade has previously dated someone abusive and that might be the person or type of person giving them a ride to the DSA meeting.
did you cause them to date abusive people? i don't really see how that's relevant. anyone showing up to your dsa meeting might have an abusive boyfriend, not just your exes
Even with civil endings to my relationships, those relationships ended for a reason. There's some fundamental incompatibility which is going to impact everything else. Several of my exes are bipolar and I don't know what their manic phases bring. Everyone I've dated in the past decade has previously dated someone abusive and that might be the person or type of person giving them a ride to the DSA meeting. That's all wholly unnecessary baggage which means infosec and opsec risk if you're doing something on the edge of legality. I'm avoiding them for the same reason I use a pseudonym here instead of my legal name and wear a mask at protests.
there's a fundamental romantic incompatibility between me and almost every friend I ever have had or ever will have (excluding the ones who became/become lovers at some point). being incompatible in a romantic relationship does not, in fact, necessarily impact non-romantic interactions.
do you treat everyone with a mental disorder the same way, or just the ones you banged at some point? because they have bipolar disorder you can't go to the same climbing gym as them? almost 5% of people have it my man, if more than 20 people regularly attend the place chances are you're going to run into one and, chances are, you'll never know.
did you cause them to date abusive people? i don't really see how that's relevant. anyone showing up to your dsa meeting might have an abusive boyfriend, not just your exes
Truly a bizzare thread