Oh yeah, I don't want to discourage help for our cis male comrades at all. You guys rock and I love y'all. I just don't like the stereotype that "the left hates men"
I agree that it is a dumb conception, but we can be thankful that it's not really a stereotype but just something someone said online a few days ago that as far as I can see no one noticed except Hexbear
it's not that the left hates men or white people or westerners full stop, it's that we understandably always focus on other stuff and it leaves us to fall through the cracks not knowing what to do with ourselves.
men generally can't talk to women about this stuff, they don't talk to eachother about it or when they do it's always PUA-tier shit or uselessplatitudes, but in the trans specific spaces i'm in i see people talking about dating while trans with eachother all the fucking time and since a lot of us are trying to date eachother i assume the advice is better quality. People who get approached by cishet men have a different set of objectives and problems and there's a huge infrastructure of advice and safety tips and so on that's reasonable and not exclusively full of rightwing bullshit.
meanwhile I'm over here and people i might have mutual interest in aren't going to approach me and I have some idea of what they have to go through and deal with so I'm too afraid of piling on that by talking to a stranger or loose acquaintance... pre-covid... and the left *definitely * oesn't care about finding me specifically a partner(s).
Oh yeah, I don't want to discourage help for our cis male comrades at all. You guys rock and I love y'all. I just don't like the stereotype that "the left hates men"
I agree that it is a dumb conception, but we can be thankful that it's not really a stereotype but just something someone said online a few days ago that as far as I can see no one noticed except Hexbear
sorry for the double reply
it's not that the left hates men or white people or westerners full stop, it's that we understandably always focus on other stuff and it leaves us to fall through the cracks not knowing what to do with ourselves.
men generally can't talk to women about this stuff, they don't talk to eachother about it or when they do it's always PUA-tier shit or uselessplatitudes, but in the trans specific spaces i'm in i see people talking about dating while trans with eachother all the fucking time and since a lot of us are trying to date eachother i assume the advice is better quality. People who get approached by cishet men have a different set of objectives and problems and there's a huge infrastructure of advice and safety tips and so on that's reasonable and not exclusively full of rightwing bullshit.
meanwhile I'm over here and people i might have mutual interest in aren't going to approach me and I have some idea of what they have to go through and deal with so I'm too afraid of piling on that by talking to a stranger or loose acquaintance... pre-covid... and the left *definitely * oesn't care about finding me specifically a partner(s).