HoChiMaxh [he/him] to menby • 2 years ago

I am a normal, fit and generally happy man in a healthy and loving LTR with a secure job and a robust group of interesting friends AMA

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I am a normal, fit and generally happy man in a healthy and loving LTR with a secure job and a robust group of interesting friends AMA

HoChiMaxh [he/him] to menby • 2 years ago

IDK this whole men on this site need advice thing has convinced me that people here really think this isn't a safe place to ask questions about how to, IDK, be?. So ask them here I guess if you didn't ask them in the other thread.

I'm drunk and going to sleep now, but I have the day off tomorrow and will sincerely commit to effort-posting responses if anyone has genuine questions they want some in depth advice to.

I will say I'm just a guy who thinks he has enough trips around the sun to have some insight to share but I am not an authority on anything, so anyone else please feel free to chime in

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SoyViking [he/him]
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2 years ago
Revolutionary violence against the state counts as taking out the trash so that would only mean that The Wife™ would win.

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- HoChiMaxh [he/him]
  hexagon
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  2 years ago
  The Wife™ should win.
  
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