Oh hey it's my topic. I love wuxia/xianxia and while I'm no expert, I at least have some recs and their caveats. As you are probably aware, there are two obvious issues with the genre: lots of the shows and media are really :yikes:, and often the show translations are either bad or hard to find. Harems, threatened and sometimes real sexual assault, slavery, and misogyny seems common across the genre. Think how shounen ends up with a lot of problematic elements. At least this features characters who often get older rather than being an eternally sexualized 14 year old. That said, I've watched and read more than I should and can at least go over what I've seen and try to be upfront with the problematic bits.

Martial World (Novel) is the xianxiaiest xianxia to ever xianxia. It has a pretty straightforward protag and world, and the cultivation system is pretty normal until the higher levels start coming around, and those get to be pretty fun. From what I remember, the only way it's problematic is that the main character has like 4 wives by the end of it. It has a hilarious sex scene where the main character is fucking but also punching ghosts at the same time. Extremely long novel, which is saying something as all of these are already very long running.

A Will Eternal (Novel w/ 2d show and I think manga adaptation) is a lighterhearted take, and at first seems pretty mild. The main character is an accidental troublemaker who is so afraid of death he stumbles his way into becoming a powerful cultivator. It starts :yikes-1: when he accidently makes extremely strong beast aphrodisiac pills and weaponizes them. I think the show made that less of a thing, but my memory is fuzzy of it, and it didn't have a great translation when I watched so I could barely understand what was going on anyways. I wouldn't really rec the novel (:yikes-3:), but if you can find a good translation for the show it's probably serviceable.

The Daily Life of an Immortal King (Show) is a comedy set in a modern xianxia setting about a kid who is just born too powerful. I don't remember the first season that much, but several of the bits in the second season had me laughing.

Way of Choices (Novel w/ 2d show adaptation and maybe a live action show) is pretty good as a novel, but I don't think it translated well to the show as it is kind of monologue heavy. I did watch the show first and liked it enough to read the novel, however. The romance was kind of cute, and the characters are all awkward and blunt to the point it's endearing. Has some unchallenged misogyny going on from secondary characters towards the female empress of the setting, which isn't really pushed back on at all.

Swallowed Star (Novel w/ 3d show adaptation) it's xianxia sci-fi. Solid enough show, the later events in the novel feature a lot of slavery of warriors, which the protag participates in, buying tons of slaves early on as a quick military when he steps on the intergalactic stage. Haven't finished the novel, it's kind of dragging so I have the chapter in an eternally open tab on my phone.

Battle Through the Heavens (Novel w/ 3d show adaptation) is another xianxia that seems pretty straightforward. The show has the advantage of being to the point that characters are power enough to break space itself when fighting, which is really cool. MC's path to power is the spirit of an old expert following him around. The main character seems to like to threaten sexual assault in the novel, which has dampened my enthusiasm for reading longer, and yet the main character will still likely develop a harem.

Soulmate Adventure (2d show) is a wuxia with softer power levels. Has GL vibes, and I love me a good jianghu adventure. Kind of short and I don't remember much except some cool fights.

Zhen Dao Ge (3d show) is a wuxia that's a classic revenge story of an angry dude killing his way through a conspiracy. Has long and cool fight scenes. Has cool jianghu characters with named moves and the whole deal, lots of fun. Easy enough to get that I can watch it with friends.