like, flaccid button and hard slightly under average at best. There is a lot of hateful comments here that make me feel like shit. Please stop. Not every comrade with a penis has a good one. I'm tired of being reminded I can't pleasure partners if I ever stop being such a loser I can't get a partner. Honestly, I don't even try. Button dick stops me. Can we please at least stop the ableism here? I feel enough pain constantly going "oh I want to ask her out.... oh wait, I can't please her" already.

  • Dirt_Owl [comrade/them, they/them]
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    2 years ago

    After reading the response to this thread I wanted to voice something that is bothering me.

    A lot of the time men will ask for help.

    People will try to make them feel better by reminding them of the fact that these societal norms aren't necessarily true "Actually, I like all dick sizes so try to remember that it doesn't really matter"

    Men will then accuse them of trivializing the issue or not trying hard enough to placate them.

    I don't know what you want. People have screamed from the rooftops that size doesn't matter, so I kind of excuse some of them for being a little like "FFS dude how many times do we have to tell your dick is fine! C'mon!"

    I don't see that as dismissive, it's someone trying to give you some damn confidence. They're just trying to help. I know that doesn't excuse it, but I honestly think people do want to help but they don't know how and are getting frustrated.

    My personal opinion is as we explore our language and how it impacts others we should grow from what we learn. I think if it isn't already then body shaming of all kinds including dick shaming should be enforced more strictly by mods.

      • maya [she/her, they/them]
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        2 years ago

        This right here. Imagine if someone posted about being cripplingly insecure due to their unemployment. Being good communists, we would all recognize how that feeling is artificially created by capitalism and try to comfort them. But when the insecurity is dick size, half the comments place the blame squarely on OP and think he should snap out of it the moment someone says his dick is fine.

    • Awoo [she/her]
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      2 years ago

      I have no idea your dick is small until I'm in a bedroom with you and I assure you that I am in a bedroom with you for more than a dick, much like I sure hope you're there for more than some tits.

      Besides, there are things you can do with a big dick, and things you can only do with a small dick. Like, it really isn't all about size. You don't need to go that far above average before it becomes actively problematic because most women are built for average depth, and many smaller women can't even do average without pain or asking for consideration.

    • RION [she/her]
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      2 years ago

      I will say that the "size doesn't matter" response can be taken as a white lie told to make them feel better. But of course what else are you supposed to say then? You can't convince someone of something they won't or can't believe. The reality is that preference is all over the place and you can't change that, but it's hard to accept things you can't change.

      TMI about my own experience here (rambling)

      I used to stress so much about it when I was younger. I can say truthfully that I am about average (perhaps a bit thin? Idk I only had a ruler not a measuring tape) when measuring properly from the pubic bone, but perception is so fucked that average can feel small, especially given the average dick size observed by men through porn. Combined with insecurity about my weight I felt like such a dumpster fire. But then I just... stopped worrying so much? And while I still hate my body due to weight issues I just don't care at this point. I can feel the insecurity nibbling at the edge of my mind but unless something truly traumatizing happened I don't think about it. What's tough is that whenever anyone would say to get over it and love myself, that just made me angry. Oh, easy for you to say! So while it is ultimately the path forward IMO, it can be tough to get there and impossible to lead someone there.

    • jkfjfhkdfgdfb [she/her]
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      2 years ago

      I don’t know what you want.

      a magical fucking button to solve the issue, or else a minority to blame, usually