Seriously folks, there's a lot of transphobic titles in porn, hard r's in interracial porn, lots of racist shit. More and more people are saying it. These racist slurs, they're not good folks. Why just the other day I was watching a video called "disgusting white boy cucked by bbc in front of his flawless aryan white wife" and the racist undertones and dehumanization of our black comrades was really bad, like really bad folks. Is this a bit? Kinda. Respond please and have sex with my wife.
Those things absolutely have an effect on the mind of viewers. I mean we've seen what mass media does to the general population and I see no reason why porn wouldn't influence people either and in some ways it's probably more effective. Like you pointed out I also think there's a coping aspect to it. With some of my friends I can tell when their mental state has changed just from the porn they're sharing.
Wait, what? Sharing porn? Fuck, im getting old...
Lmao I should probably point out that I spent many years on sites like tumblr. Sharing porn with friends in that context was pretty normal depending on what communities you were involved in.