So I've been talking to a nice attractive lady and we've been flirting on and off and setting up a time to get together at her place , now I'm not stupid so with a hangout like that and the way we've been flirting I knew sex or something akin was in the cards. Then she says she wants to start an onlyfans and said we should try and make a vid (and that she's never done it before) and I thought :wut: at first and then said yes and played it off. She also seems to be open to something more then a hookup cause she still talks about wanting to get to know each other more and maybe have something so you can imagine why I was a little surprised.

I'm not judgmental and not totally opposed to the idea (don't want this to be any sort of struggle sessions/debate about onlyfans and sex work please). To be honest though I'm a little worried about "performing" with this new pressure 😅. Any advice ? If I like this person and don't just want sex should I say we should wait? Anyone have a similar experience? Part of me wonders why I'm even posting this but yeah what ya'll think Hex users 🤐.

  • TheLegendaryCarrot23 [he/him]
    hexagon
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    1 year ago

    We haven't met at all in person only talked for a little over a month now , exchanging many vids and pics but no nudes or anything really sexual really.

    Okay maybe TMI but basically went like this keeping it short:

    • talked for a month very flirty, wanting to date , but not sexually explicit

    • has Snapchat vid of her bein all like "should I start an onlyfans 😉" , just a day or so ago, I ain't stupid I see the in.

    • i say "I'd watch that onlyfans" (flirty and playin stupid yeah)

    • talk this morning . I ask for something that's a vid that's hot, sends me vid, not nude but it's nice.

    • she asks for body vid ,I do it, also show D .

    -flirt more , chatting later asks if we should try and do a vid together and watch it after and see what's it like when we hang.

    Honestly gaming it out makes sense. Sorry if this is very " :cringe: " but hey I think just spelling it out helped me 😂. Chain of events makes sense lol.

    • forcequit [she/her]
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      1 year ago

      I've got got before so that's why I'm on the brakes here ig

      just be safe first and foremost. You don't know who's on the other end until you meet them and get to know them. Let a friend know where you're going, give them the name of the person you're seeing, phone number/licence plate/any identifiable information they can use if you disappear yknow?

      • TheLegendaryCarrot23 [he/him]
        hexagon
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        1 year ago

        Omg here is me thinking as an average guy I'm invincible but ya could get human trafficked 🤣(Eric Andre music plays) . I am going to let my brother know where I am and sense I m going to her place have an address . The concern is genuinely appreciated and taken to heart though.

        I'll be fine but you're right it's always good to keep those things in mind.

          • TheLegendaryCarrot23 [he/him]
            hexagon
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            1 year ago

            Was only gonna do it if mentioned but follow up post is guaranteed good with the bad or if it's just good or (god forbid) mostly bad 😆 .