So I've been talking to a nice attractive lady and we've been flirting on and off and setting up a time to get together at her place , now I'm not stupid so with a hangout like that and the way we've been flirting I knew sex or something akin was in the cards. Then she says she wants to start an onlyfans and said we should try and make a vid (and that she's never done it before) and I thought :wut: at first and then said yes and played it off. She also seems to be open to something more then a hookup cause she still talks about wanting to get to know each other more and maybe have something so you can imagine why I was a little surprised.
I'm not judgmental and not totally opposed to the idea (don't want this to be any sort of struggle sessions/debate about onlyfans and sex work please). To be honest though I'm a little worried about "performing" with this new pressure 😅. Any advice ? If I like this person and don't just want sex should I say we should wait? Anyone have a similar experience? Part of me wonders why I'm even posting this but yeah what ya'll think Hex users 🤐.
I'm stoned rn so take this w a grain of salt but I feel like starting/contributing to an only fans with someone you barely know CANNOT be a good idea
Death to America
Hi, stoned too my friend ,and firstly inshallah Death To America. smoking green too and sipping a 40(not reading today lol) .
FAIR , but we've talked for so long , despite the Onlyfans thing seems like a catch, independent, attractive, freakin Columbian :hyperflush: , seems genuinely kinda innocent, i have my second guesses but chief it's a dessert out here how could I atleast not try lmao.
I'm not saying don't do it. I'm just saying get to know her a bit better. a month just feels super fast to me to take that kind of plunge
also it's not a desert out there. if this attractive, independent Columbian woman wants you, there are also plenty of women who will want you. believe in yourself. cringe and cliche but important nonetheless
Death to America
Thanks boss. Look you may be right but I personally feel like a month is long enough, like I've had casual sex with people I've known much less(not bragging it's often meh). and your totally right shouldn't pretend like there isn't a sea full of fish, and I go for cis an trans too so hey that's numbers lol. I'm gonna be very casual bout this thing with this person and I do take your advice to heart.
Inshallah Death To America.
She clearly needs the money but it's still funny that she wants to get to know you better after starting a sex-broadcasting business with you.
Or maybe she has been doing it for a long time, but fears you'll reject it for it so she says "what if we do OF, never tried it tho, and maybe have a second date too"
In any case, use a mask
Yeah she mentioned that she is doing to make extra money cause her job is part time rn so def think it could be a cash strapped thing, and every other female cis or trans has an onlyfans now so eh I see the logic. I'm still nervous of course but she's older and has her own place so seems well put together , no big red flags.
Being honest though I highly doubt I'd do this on the reg. If we do like each other as people and try to be together I'd communicate that I don't wanna do a bunch of vids . That could be a deal breaker hypothetically but I'm not gonna over think a future that might not come to pass lol. Like most guys around my age its rare for me to get dates with independent mature calm women (I'm quite introverted and she claims she is not a partier and all that.)
Logging on to hexbear.net to write a 250 word humblebrag about how big my dick is.
Closer to reality then you'd think with the whole beard matches the drapes thing to be honest lol.
To be totally real, unless they've got an advertising network at their beck and call, it's pretty unlikely many people would see it or anything would come of it. But on the offhand it becomes popular you gotta be sure you're okay with it being out there. That's priority 1. You also gotta be sure that you're okay if this turns out to just be a one video thing for her to build up a portfolio. Might wanna think contract. Not sure what the kids do nowadays.
But, if you do decide to go for it, have fun with it, don't be afraid to laugh and joke with each other. Most people either assume that all they have to do is fuck and tape it and you end up with some vid of two people laying on top of each other sweating, or some make a huge performance and the whole thing feels fake and kinda cringy. Two (or more) people actually enjoying each other is sexy. Treat it like a threesome with the camera as your third; You don't have to focus on what the audience wants entirely, but you don't want them to feel left out.
Treat it like a threesome with the camera as your third
Treat it like a cuckold scene and the camera is sitting there quietly watching you fuck its girlfriend
Performance anxiety solved 😎
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(Not really tho lol)
Wow my dude this was great advice all around!! Your definitely right probably won't be seen by many and even if it is now thinking about it I don't really mind I'm still pretty young too. And reading that second paragraph makes feel much more relaxed . Your right to put it simply I should just go with the flow not build it up even if it doesn't go totally smoothly I'd regret not taking the chance even more. (And you are definitely right when I have watched amateur porn it's always better when you can see some real mutual affection/attraction)
I didn't have any expectations but again genuinely helped put my mind at ease. Thanks yo!
Oh, and if y'all do wanna kinda hide your faces until you're sure about it, those lacy masks are pretty hot. And there's plenty of other themes (like superheros or something) that can hide your face without people feeling like they're about to watch :ira: unless that's your thing.😉
Haha well somebody's clearly been around the block 😆! Honestly masks can be hot though ,maybe I'll ask and see if I can be spiderman masked lol .
When I was younger I ran a bunch of small feeder sites for bigger affiliates and made a couple vids that floated around for a while. Thought about dipping my toe in the OF water, but then covid happened and I think I'm just gonna work on my tan for a bit.
I've got a full body spiderman from aliexpress that may have featured in some of my plans.
i know you're a dude and it's not as big of a concern but i'll say it anyway: make sure someone knows where you're going and that you're going to be putting yourself into a vulnerable situation . just in case.
Honestly it doesn't make a difference in basically any other way (hence why I didn't mention it) but its a trans women not cis which I feel like makes that sort of thing less likely (could be off base).
But anyways you are correct, hey 0.01% chance I get murked (lol) but I'll let my bro know I'm out and roughly where , thanks for the advice (: .
it never hurts to be safe! that said, i do think you're probably right in that regard.
however you end up handling it, i hope you enjoy yourself!
Then she says she wants to start an onlyfans and said we should try and make a vid (and that she’s never done it before)
I'm just going to say it, this is most likely a lie.
Also I'll say if you are going to record yourself having sex or publish nude photos, hide your face or cover it up until you are absolutely sure you're comfortable with this. And cover up any unique tatoos or birthmarks. It's one thing to think you're comfortable with stuff like this being on the internet, it's another thing for it to actually be out there. And you don't want to regret it and then have all these photos and videos on the internet with your face attached to them.
I personally would not do it, but if you want to, that's the advice I'd give. And most importantly, have fun
By all means I appreciate the honesty . And you know you definitely could be right. I would think it's 60% chance she lyin and 40% chance she ain't but she did a public Snapchat asking "should I start an onlyfans" which funnily enough sounds red flag typing it out but makes total sense, wants it to sell lmao(Christ lol). Either way I'm okay with a white lie like that at first as long as she tells me the truth later if we get to know each other.
Thanks for the further advice too tho , no tattoos or like surgery marks or big birth marks but Im definitely gonna mask up. Wouldn't of if I didn't post here but that's wise . Cheers friend
Yeah just think things though first and all that, and have fun. And all the other advice I'd give is the same as I'd give for having casual sex, and sex in general. Use protection/get an STI test, enthusiastic consent from both you and your partner is always critically important. Remember that you can revoke consent at any time if you feel uncomfortable, or for whatever reason. And so can your partner, so respect that too. And enjoy it.
Also you mentioned in another comment that this person is an older women, just make sure you're comfortable with the age gap and the dynamics from that.
I am and thank you for being so mature and real with that advice, remembering the rules and dynamics of consent and age is so important .
Again thanks for the advice was like a warm blanket
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Lol I'm not gonna ask her for a cut 😆 , especially cause she could do it with almost anyone she wants lol I'm not the eye candy in the vid. In the past I might have been suspicious but eh 2023 is normal an she seems sweet. I'm ah risk it I think chief lol.
Don't really like your tude to be honest my friend I considered and appreciated your advice and decided that I think I'm still gonna go with it, just because you give someone advice dosnt mean they have to take it . thanks for wishing me luck tho 🤞
How exactly did you meet her? I've had the same thing happen to me and it ended up being bullshit. If it's legit and you've met her in person at a public setting then go but be extremely cautious.
I've been around the block more then most my age , have talked on the phone , texted for a month , exchanged pics/vids . It ain't fake , but I get the skepticism .plenty of bullshit out there. Met on Taimi .
I'd want to have sex first and then if it was good come back to film. New person + first time being filmed would be too much pressure for me I think. Have fun!
Have you met before like at all? This seems wildly forward planning for get-together/playdate, and my spidey sense is tingling.
Otherwise, have safe, be fun!
We haven't met at all in person only talked for a little over a month now , exchanging many vids and pics but no nudes or anything really sexual really.
Okay maybe TMI but basically went like this keeping it short:
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talked for a month very flirty, wanting to date , but not sexually explicit
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has Snapchat vid of her bein all like "should I start an onlyfans 😉" , just a day or so ago, I ain't stupid I see the in.
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i say "I'd watch that onlyfans" (flirty and playin stupid yeah)
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talk this morning . I ask for something that's a vid that's hot, sends me vid, not nude but it's nice.
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she asks for body vid ,I do it, also show D .
-flirt more , chatting later asks if we should try and do a vid together and watch it after and see what's it like when we hang.
Honestly gaming it out makes sense. Sorry if this is very " :cringe: " but hey I think just spelling it out helped me 😂. Chain of events makes sense lol.
I've got got before so that's why I'm on the brakes here ig
just be safe first and foremost. You don't know who's on the other end until you meet them and get to know them. Let a friend know where you're going, give them the name of the person you're seeing, phone number/licence plate/any identifiable information they can use if you disappear yknow?
Omg here is me thinking as an average guy I'm invincible but ya could get human trafficked 🤣(Eric Andre music plays) . I am going to let my brother know where I am and sense I m going to her place have an address . The concern is genuinely appreciated and taken to heart though.
I'll be fine but you're right it's always good to keep those things in mind.
Was only gonna do it if mentioned but follow up post is guaranteed good with the bad or if it's just good or (god forbid) mostly bad 😆 .
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She might have just used "lol I want to set up an only fans wanna make a vid" as an overt "hey let's fuck" and she might not necessarily have to make the vid if you don't want
Do it, but also this sounds like a scam. She could perform on her own, why would she need you?
Because when you talk to someone long enough you can tell there's a genuine attraction. Hey I'm not Bradd Pitt but I aint bad lol . It's not a scam .
but to entertain the thought: it's 99.99% chance real or 0.01% chance I get human trafficked and have my organs taken or worse . But my friend you can't live in a prison built on that 0.01% chance .
(Gets robbed/killed lol).
so you actually can't appear on someone else's onlyfans page unless you have your own OF page, so you'd have to sign up as a creator and go through their verification process as well.
anyway it's weird that she would ask this if you haven't even had sex with her yet. and if she wants to start an OF why not start out with nudes or solo stuff before asking someone you barely know to star in a sex tape with you?
also she's asking you for unpaid labor, though I seriously doubt she will make much money from this considering how poorly thought-out it seems. of course you'd be getting paid in sex, but then the question is whether you're willing to do sex work just to get laid
maybe try and see if she wants to have sex without the cameras first, and see where it goes from there
I can't find anything saying I need to start an account myself to be in someone else's video but I only did a cursory Google search, didn't even go through onlyfans page rules . I know that's more strict now though with the pornhub ruling with Id tho . Could you point me to that and what it entails ? Other people's vids seem to star anonymous people all the time.
And honestly it's not that wierd , atleast maybe to me . I've hooked up with other people on lighter circumstances and knowing less about them then this person . And hey maybe she's being honest when she's says she wants to watch a tape made with someone, and of course I'm gonna take it relatively slow and steady .
Lastly the whole "unpaid labor" thing doesn't bother me at all lol, really I'm not the catch in this one ha. And am I "willing to do sex work just to get laid?" Brother I've worked more then this to get laid hell yeah I am 😅.
okay so apparently you don't necessarily have to be a creator, but if you're not then OF might request documents verifying your ID and take down the video if you don't
this is the text from onlyfans ToS (section 11a under "Terms of Use for Creators")
If you upload Content to your Creator account which shows anyone else other than or in addition to you (even if that person cannot be identified from the Content) ("Co-Authored Content"), you warrant (which means you make a legally enforceable promise to us) that each individual shown in any Co-Authored Content uploaded to your account is i) a Creator on OnlyFans; or ii) a consenting adult, and that you have verified the identity and age of each such individual and will provide supporting documents as we may request in our discretion.
Hell yeah dude glad we clarified this lol . Nothing unreasonable so good to go all in the clear :07:
for my two cents, I'd be like 'fuck it, we ball' if I wasn't opposed to the idea and I wanted to get a :volcel-police: bounty anyway. That way I see if I just couldn't fucking stand having to perform for a camera or publishing or something. If they insisted that it keep happening, that's the point I would start talking about what the relationship looks like and having contracts. I've never given much weight to the idea that you wait to :volcel-judge: to have a more serious relationship, nor have I been in a serious relationship in a while lmao. You could also be like "I want to do it without the camera first." since you professed it was going in that direction anyway.
All solid advice . Think I'm going "beast mode yolo" on this one as the kids say lol.
Good point too like the idea of actually performing with sex is wierd to me too. She did say we'd watch it back after and see what it's like so I'm hoping we both actually new to this 😅.
But so right if does go longer I think I'll like draw a line and see if it's make or break, but who knows maybe it'll just be cool and I'm down to do it more(doubt that).
And yeah atleast with for the start no camera lol. I'm still anxious but some folks here who aren't just trying to dunk eased my mind .
Hey ya only live once (possibly , although maybe there's reincarnation who knows :P).
Extreme hypocrisy on my part be damned:
:volcel-judge:
Stay vigilant .
