Link: https://www.reddit.com/r/Futurology/comments/1195kb7/us_most_young_men_are_single_most_young_women_are/

Halfway down the thread someone mentions that this article is based on a self-reported pew research poll and not any kind of more in-depth study.

Also whoever wrote the article either didn’t understand the actual poll or just outright lied about what the data showed lmao

comment on this:

If you drill down into the actual source of the data, which is a Pew research poll, you find a specific definition of "single". It is not actually "are you [not] dating someone".

In these stats, "single" refers to people who "are not married, living with a partner or in a committed relationship".

The important part here: a committed relationship. This is self-reported by the people being polled.

If two people are in a relationship, one may answer "yes" to this and the other may answer "no", depending on whether they see it as a "committed" relationship.

Thus, there is an interesting explanation for at least part of the data - perhaps young men don't consider themselves "committed" as often.

Combined with the age distribution phenomenon, this likely covers pretty much all of the discrepancy in the stats.

Original Pew Poll: https://www.pewresearch.org/fact-tank/2023/02/08/for-valentines-day-5-facts-about-single-americans/ft_2023-02-08_facts-single-americans_01/

Fashy bros love to avoid putting a label on things and then blame women for not being in a relationship lol

  • hexaflexagonbear [he/him]
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    2 years ago

    I imagine another factor might be that women are ready for committed relationships earlier and actively seek out (slightly) older men because of that. But I guess the incel mind jumps to chads who live with their 30 girlfriends or some shit.

    • aaaaaaadjsf [he/him, comrade/them]
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      2 years ago

      The optimistic incel mind will probably think "hell yeah I just need to wait until I'm 30 and women will fawn all over me", without looking into any of the reasons why women prefer slightly older men. Pessimistic incels will think "oh damn even less of a chance in the dating world when I get older", and turn that into a self fulfilling prophecy.

      I'm not an incel obviously, so I'm just guessing here.

        • aaaaaaadjsf [he/him, comrade/them]
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          2 years ago

          Reality doesn't manifest from your thoughts, but your thoughts can make you take action, which can then change the reality.

          In the case of an incel, these pessimistic thoughts may cause them to wallow in self pity, instead of taking actions to better their situation like changing their attitude towards women (the most important one for incels), exercising, eating better, leaving their place of living more often, etc provided they have the means to do so.

          That's what I mean by self fulfilling prophecy.