What's your opinion? Vote now: 0–Completely aligned with opposite gender, 1, 2, 3–Equally unaligned with both binary genders, 4, 5, 6–Completely aligned with assigned gender...
I think I'd need a definition of what "completely aligned with assigned gender" means to be able to answer this. I'm definitely a woman and have never questioned that, not even a little bit. So a 6 would make sense, right? But then I start wondering what that means and if I have to be hyperfeminine for that to make sense, and then I feel like we're getting into gender determinism and I don't like that at all.
It’s really interesting seeing cis people wrestling with the same questions I’ve talked through with so many trans friends. Wish I had a definitive answer but I don’t. That’s why so much of it is about self-identification at the end of the day
Edit: maybe “comfortably aligned with assigned gender” would be a better phrasing
I think the closest I've ever come to understanding how a trans person feels was in a Contrapoints (I know, controversial) video where she responded to a TERF asking why she couldn't just live as a feminine man, and Natalie was like, "I don't know, why don't YOU life as a feminine man?" and I immediately thought "absolutely not."
Yup. That’s really all it is. I didn’t think I was trans for a long time because I had that reaction to being a woman. Then I realized I also had that reaction to being a man. Can be a little harder to recognize when you’re used to it.
One way to think about it is to try to imagine a world where you were the same person, but you had been assigned a different gender. Someone who's a 3 might be equally comfortable if they had been either AMAB or AFAB, and could live as a cis person in either case. Someone who's a 6 would probably feel a strong drive to transition to their current gender.
I think I'd need a definition of what "completely aligned with assigned gender" means to be able to answer this. I'm definitely a woman and have never questioned that, not even a little bit. So a 6 would make sense, right? But then I start wondering what that means and if I have to be hyperfeminine for that to make sense, and then I feel like we're getting into gender determinism and I don't like that at all.
It’s really interesting seeing cis people wrestling with the same questions I’ve talked through with so many trans friends. Wish I had a definitive answer but I don’t. That’s why so much of it is about self-identification at the end of the day
Edit: maybe “comfortably aligned with assigned gender” would be a better phrasing
I think the closest I've ever come to understanding how a trans person feels was in a Contrapoints (I know, controversial) video where she responded to a TERF asking why she couldn't just live as a feminine man, and Natalie was like, "I don't know, why don't YOU life as a feminine man?" and I immediately thought "absolutely not."
Yup. That’s really all it is. I didn’t think I was trans for a long time because I had that reaction to being a woman. Then I realized I also had that reaction to being a man. Can be a little harder to recognize when you’re used to it.
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One way to think about it is to try to imagine a world where you were the same person, but you had been assigned a different gender. Someone who's a 3 might be equally comfortable if they had been either AMAB or AFAB, and could live as a cis person in either case. Someone who's a 6 would probably feel a strong drive to transition to their current gender.