So far in my life I've managed to not pick up any, never even had a close call. My partner (open relationship of almost 2 years) recently told me they are going to a group event. They are really excited for this event and have really wanted to do one for a long time. They were telling me about it with a bright smile so I was happy for them. Then they said someone in the group "had herpes but is managing it well." I want to trust my partner to know their other partners well enough, but this is a new scenario for me. I know it is technically manageable but it makes me a bit uncomfortable knowing they are going to take this risk.
I'm looking for advice. What do I do? Do I tell my partner not to go? Is herpes fully manageable and not a concern at all? Does that matter if I don't want any more things in my life to manage? Is using protection safe enough on its own or do people need to take the anti-viral suppressants to really make sure? Can I even ask someone if they're taking it? (The person lives in an area where that is provided without charge if that changes anything.) I don't know. I feel like I'm not being true to the progressive (call me a lib rn, whatever) values I claim if I tell my partner not to go while worrying about an apperently manageable STD.
I'm pretty? sure that herpes is only transmissible when it flares up/there's open wounds? In which case "managing it" could mean they're managing it ie: no breakouts.
also something silly like half of all people have HPV.
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There's a vaccine now and everyone should get it if they can. We can just make cervical cancers caused by HPV disapear. We have the technology.
Where do I go about getting this vaccine?
Primary Care doctor should have it. It's pretty common now since they recommend everyone gets it. You might even be able to find a urgent care or pharmacy that does it. (If you live in the US I'm assuming)
According to the government here it can be transmissible when it flares up and is asymptomatic as well which would make it basically impossible to tell when you are contagious or not.