This is a burner account cause it's kinda embarissing and such. Sorry for the slightly rambliness.

I'm currently in my first long term relationship ever (1.5 years). I had felt like I was missing something from my direction of our relationship (enough attention) a few months ago. We talked about it and it mostly feels solved at this point. I hadn't really noticed the same feeling after that point, but I met a person recently who has made me reevaluate my feelings. I met this person and I realized I haven't had anyone in my life before now that really "got" me. (I have also been crushing on this person a little bit, everyone is aware of this but we are perfectly happy just being friends). I currently believe that that kind of feeling is what I am missing from my current relationship, as my partner (who works two jobs) only has limited ability to understand and relate to my interests. I've also been a bit frustrated lately because my partner doesn't have a very robust support network, besides me. Most of this is down to their autism (I am also autistic) and having multiple jobs and health issues which drain them pretty badly. I love them so much and I'm not sure what to do. I plan to talk to them about this but I'm really not sure what should even be on my mind.

Please help a really confused hexbearer who feels too old for their lack of relationship experience.

  • burneraccount3444555 [they/them]
    hexagon
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    2 years ago

    The "caregiver fatigue" is something I have been experiencing, but I didn't have a name for it. I plan to communicate this with them, as I think it's a lot of the reason I am struggling. You are completely correct about the jobs taking up their energy to really connect, which is why I've been (trying to be) understanding. Thank you so much.