I think that a factor in accepting love is trust. I mean functional trust, not a gamblers capricious momentary choice, real trust. The kind that takes time and risk to cultivate. All the issues with "who do I trust" and "I'm scared to be vulnerable" are at play, so I'm not being facetious, I know it's hard because it's hard for me, too. And even if you cultivate trust, it's no guarantee that someone won't hurt you, I would only say it's worth the time and effort because all good things in life seem to come with time and effort instead of wishes or imagination by themselves.
See, we're all in the same boat here. All you have is all I have. I can try to see myself, which is really hard and works better when someone that can see me describes what they see...then I can decide myself what it is that's in the way of what I want. Then I can do something about it. You gotta take things one at a time and take the time.
One thing about living in the US is that people don't see their effort or time as valuable, it's about making labor cheap and fast. If you could see the result of your effort as valuable, it wouldn't be long before you started seeing all your problems in the light of making the effort and taking your own time and then you get the results all to yourself. Then self work is just another day and you get all the results.
Your effort matters and is valuable and it's easy to see it when you do it yourself. :soviet-heart:
I think that a factor in accepting love is trust. I mean functional trust, not a gamblers capricious momentary choice, real trust. The kind that takes time and risk to cultivate. All the issues with "who do I trust" and "I'm scared to be vulnerable" are at play, so I'm not being facetious, I know it's hard because it's hard for me, too. And even if you cultivate trust, it's no guarantee that someone won't hurt you, I would only say it's worth the time and effort because all good things in life seem to come with time and effort instead of wishes or imagination by themselves.
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See, we're all in the same boat here. All you have is all I have. I can try to see myself, which is really hard and works better when someone that can see me describes what they see...then I can decide myself what it is that's in the way of what I want. Then I can do something about it. You gotta take things one at a time and take the time.
One thing about living in the US is that people don't see their effort or time as valuable, it's about making labor cheap and fast. If you could see the result of your effort as valuable, it wouldn't be long before you started seeing all your problems in the light of making the effort and taking your own time and then you get the results all to yourself. Then self work is just another day and you get all the results.
Your effort matters and is valuable and it's easy to see it when you do it yourself. :soviet-heart: