How do you feel when a guy is kind of clingy and possesive? I'm the jealous type and I get suspicious and anxious women im dating or want to date don't message or text me back right away.

I often wonder if I have some type of borderline personality disorder, im so immediately afraid of abandonment. Like immediately I assume the worst if I'm not messaged or texted back right away.

Erroneous and somewhat misogynistic thought often says that women are the ones who are clingy, im here to tell you this is not the case lol. I'm just as clingy and workable moreso than any women I've me

I've gotten some good advice in other threads I've made, but I'll be more specific here.

  • FearsomeJoeandmac [he/him, he/him]
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    2 years ago

    thanks for being honest. I've had women im dating tell me that I sometimes intimidate them when I get jealous Im a fairly tall dude like I'm like 6'1 so I imagine for a woman who's more petite than myself that would be scary.

    Let me clarify I've never ever put hands on woman or screamed at one or anything. Just argued over my jealous suspicions

    I pretty much work, get off,ndo some reading and then I'll start wondering "hmm well she said she was just going out with friends". I need to check in on her.

    Wouldn't dare diagnose myself just think maybe I should speak to a professional about it, thank you though.

    Preciate the thoughtful response.

      • FearsomeJoeandmac [he/him, he/him]
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        2 years ago

        Appreciate your honesty. I wasn't saying I was virtuous or anything for not yelling at or hitting someone. Just didn't want anyone to get the wrong idea that I commit domestic violence on the regular, or at all. Sometimes stuff is lost in translation.

        Obviously I recognize all this behavior is largely negative so Im trying to examine it with the help of my friends on hexbear, and then do some ruminating on my own.