How do you feel when a guy is kind of clingy and possesive? I'm the jealous type and I get suspicious and anxious women im dating or want to date don't message or text me back right away.

I often wonder if I have some type of borderline personality disorder, im so immediately afraid of abandonment. Like immediately I assume the worst if I'm not messaged or texted back right away.

Erroneous and somewhat misogynistic thought often says that women are the ones who are clingy, im here to tell you this is not the case lol. I'm just as clingy and workable moreso than any women I've me

I've gotten some good advice in other threads I've made, but I'll be more specific here.

  • Mardoniush [she/her]
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    2 years ago

    I don't tolerate this in the women I date, and if I dated men I wouldn't tolerate it in them. Sometimes I won't answer you for a few hours. Sometimes I wont answer you for a day or even two, especially if I'm travelling. I can and will leave you on read.

    I know this makes me a bit of an asshole and well...this is the bad part of me. If it's a deal breaker then...that's really sad.

    I'm busy, I got shit to do, I have limited capacity for personal interaction and between org work and two careers and hobbies I have to do a lot of it, if it's not an emergency go away, I have scheduled Netflix nights 18 months in advance, stop panicking.

    If it is a crisis I'll drop everything and be there, but if not sometimes I'm in an 11 hour long meeting.

    My response to someone being jealous is that I do not have the fucking time to fuck around with other people. A quick look at the non-euclidian space known as my calendar will confirm this.