I watched the video linked above yesterday morning, and it really blew my mind. I'm still processing it and would love to discuss it with you all.
It's 08m04s, no music, sound effects, startles, or sponsor shit, just a late-diagnosed woman discussing a revelation she had about communication differences.
She explains it better than I will, but to give you the overview, she thinks that allistics prioritize the parts of the communication process this way:
- feelings
- social context
- information exchange
and autistics instead do
- information exchange
- social context
- feelings
The way she explains it (and the examples she gives) makes so much sense to me. Idk yet how to incorporate that new understanding into my attempts to communicate with allistics, but wow, yeah, this extremely simple difference blew my mind and seems obvious in retrospect.
that uh, resonated more than I expected
I don;t think I'm autistic but maybe somewhere on the spectrum because wow if that isn't me, and my mom, to a T. chronically upsetting/putting off neurotypical ppl by putting the information exchange first and up front. She has a habit of asking extraordinarily blunt questions to the point of being kinda blindsiding
Have you taken the CAT-Q, which is geared towards high-masking individuals? My score on it surprised me; I expected to score somewhere in the autistic range, but I was much higher than I thought I'd be.
hahah fuck okay well
yeah same.
also interesting to see the NB scores broken out. would be interested to know if the same applies to binary trans ppl