Burner account but I swear I'm a real person here. Hopefully I don't thoroughly dox myself but I'm in my thirties and have, for the first time, been forced to use the dating apps. I hate them. However, I (a cis guy) matched with a vegan, communist (based on profile) woman around my age and now I'm banging my head against a wall trying to think of like how to start a convo? I'm so old and stupid, irl I'm not really that worried about meeting people but this is messing with me.

Edit: to clarify, I am also a vegan communist

  • SocialistWombat [he/him]
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    1 year ago

    I tried the cursed landscape of both OKcupid AND Tinder in its early days. Neither were good.

    Eventually I got set up on a blind date and that was it. Speak to your family and friends guys, for real. Online dating apps are trash.

    • UlyssesT [he/him]
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      1 year ago

      OKcupid used to be bearable until it was swallowed up by a larger competitor.

      • VernetheJules [they/them]
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        1 year ago

        Iirc the tinder, okc and one of the other big ones are all owned by the same company lol

    • BarnieusCalgar [he/him]
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      1 year ago

      Speak to your family and friends guys, for real.

      I do that, they refuse to help me. :/

      • FourteenEyes [he/him]
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        1 year ago

        "It'll happen for you" "You have to love yourself first" "It will happen when you're not looking" "Be yourself :)"

        • BarnieusCalgar [he/him]
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          1 year ago

          TBF to them it's more "We also don't know anybody that's available/interested", so like. It's not quite so patronizing.