Exclusive: Video Reveals Steven Crowder Emotionally Abusing Wife. In Statement, Hilary Crowder's Family Says She Hid His Emotionally Abusive Behavior For Years
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Conservative media host and commentator Steven Crowder can be seen on a Ring Camera video berating his wife Hilary, who was at the time nearly eight months pregnant, and demanding that she handle medicine for his dogs that she was concerned was toxic to pregnant women. In the video, he snaps at her to put on her gloves to give his dogs medicine, walk the dogs, and otherwise "perform wifely duties," as she is clearly emotionally distressed.

notable bits:

crowder filed for divorce

he was not present for the birth of his children

he moved out like before they were even home really

he was clearly abusive the whole time

  • glimmer_twin [he/him]
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    1 year ago

    I wasn’t trying to victim blame, I guess my language made it seem that way. It’s more of a “you literally personally financially benefited from the tangible harm that Crowder does with his rhetoric, so I don’t really care what happens to you”.

    To me it’s the same as not giving a fuck that Herman Cain died of Covid or that Feinstein is dying a slow painful death.

    Obviously on at a base level nobody deserves spousal abuse, just like nobody deserves to choke to death on their own fluid. That being said all of these people profited from the agony of countless others, I find it very hard to sympathise with them about anything that happens to them.

    I’m sure that makes me a bad person but at this point my heart is hardened by class hatred.

    • Avanash [they/them]
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      1 year ago

      Most people I know who have escaped their abusers know exactly what their position is, even if they have to push it from their mind to function day to day. They are prisoners. If they do not comply, harm will come to them. Leaving is not compliance. They are not allowed. Maybe Hilary’s prison guard was gentler than mine. Her cell was definitely comfier. But I also got mine to surrender parental rights.

      So are you wrong to not feel bad for her? I don’t really care, tbh. I don’t think empathy is an obligation, either to give it or to receive it. Some people get more of it than they deserve, some less. My guess is that none of us have a good enough read on the situation to really say and none of us know them well enough for it to matter to them what we think or feel. We dehumanize the bourgeoisie all the time. Literally quote Disco Elysium and say they’re not human. Talk about how they deserve to be shot or set on fire or buried in mass graves. So maybe it’s just that this situation feels more uncomfortable to do that because it’s more personal? Lots of us at least know people who have experienced abuse. Not a lot of us know someone who’s been thrown in a mass grave. Either way, it’s probably not something I would advertise to a large group like this. Even if I logically know you wouldn’t say the same about me because my abuser wasn’t a wealthy fascist mouthpiece, it still just kinda… feels not great, you know?

      • glimmer_twin [he/him]
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        1 year ago

        It’s definitely hard to watch, even with what I stated above. On a human level my brain takes what my eyes see and my ears hear in that video and I find it repulsive.