Today I stumbled across a weird corner of Twitter, where a ton of ostensibly conservative Christian women and men were trying to debate incels and RedPill bros using facts and logic, talking about how they shouldn't shame single mothers or promote having extramarital affairs as "high value" men, and how a TikTok trad wife was a larp of a real adoring wife--who may just have a career and have been intimate with someone else before them.

The women were also trying to redefine an "alpha" as a man who could control his sexual urges and stay faithful and kind, and were criticizing guys worshipping that kicker guy for his commencement speech, saying that if they wanted a homemaker wife they needed to be bringing in his kind of salary. Hell, all the worst fears of misogynist chuds, like how a woman won't date you unless you made 6 figures or had a good body, were things these conservative women were unapologetically saying they expected their husband to have, whereas most secular and liberal women I know would never criticize their partner on those grounds.

And then there were the "nice" Christian men who were showing themselves caring for their wives and trying to insist to incels that this was not "beta simping," along with women criticizing pastors who said DV was not grounds for divorce. All the while incel chuds, for as much as we know they hate feminists, were whining that conservative women were actually the "most disobedient" and likely trying to hide their past promiscuity behind their newfound conservativism. Hell they were even arguing to Mike Cernovich of all people that all women who partied in college were irredeemable.

Not to say these anti-redpill women were totally woke or whatever, they were usually transphobic, pro-Israel, anti-abortion, and claiming incel/redpill stuff was "just as bad as feminism," but my takeaways are:

  1. This redpill/incel/trad shit is tearing the conservative Christian community apart and giving their men brainworms too, the educated and family oriented women of the community are actually unhappy with this trend and the potential partners it's yielding, and unhappy with the female incel-pandering grifters facilitating their marginalization. That is not to mention the precipitous decline of conservative male church attendance.

  2. The ideal man as described by a lot of conservative women is actually the "beta soy lib" archetype who isn't dogmatic about gender roles and is unafraid to show kindness, provided he knows how to shoot a gun/do yardwork. A left/lib female-attracted person who made videos unapologetically espousing their belief in respect and equality in partnerships, in their own terms, might draw as many conservative women fans as they do trad/incel men enemies. A lot of the talking points we on the left find trite and self-evident would be eye opening in some places if they were just articulated again.

  3. These anti-misogyny conservative women are fighting a losing battle and they don't admit it to themselves yet, because they keep quoting scripture to justify their entitlement to male fidelity and gentleness, while the scripture was still designed by men to let married men get away with everything from DV to child SA.

  4. These conservative Christian women go at this new wave of misogyny harder than the left does, because the left oftentimes subconsciously steer away from these online spaces for fear of being ratioed and triggered and these women don't have that fear because they are still kind of, psychologically speaking, fighting with their ingroup. It's similar to how the current libertarian presidential candidate was the only guy who appeared on right wing podcasts to unapologetically defend drag queen story hour and trans-friendly bathrooms.

Thoughts? (Also, feel free to repost this anywhere if you like.)

  • HobbitFoot @thelemmy.club
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    6 months ago

    American religion has always been a shit show. You had various colonies established with wildly different beliefs and state churches. Part of the reason for freedom of religion on the federal level was as a political compromise to make sure a state's church wasn't developed above others; at the time it was relatively common for inter-Christian wars to take place. Over time after the country was founded, this allowed for free market Jesus to form.

    If you wanted to make a weird religion that was vaguely Christian, you went to the USA. This is why there are so many types of Christian church that were founded in the USA compared to other countries. This meant that pastors could sell whatever bullshit they wanted to in order to get coverts. You didn't need to follow a national religious canon because there was no nationally imposed canon. Church leaders could make up what they wanted.

    So now, as there is a push to lead to actual American Christian Fascism, no one really knows what that means. You've got churches and other organizations used to making their own sales pitches now being forced to agree on a common canon and set of laws and they aren't used to this outside of agreeing that abortion is bad and civil rights need to not progress. Incels probably stick out the most, but these debates are going to become a lot more pronounced even among different conservative Christian groups and within those groups as the sales pitches to the different groups push wildly different goals.

    • HamManBad [he/him]
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      6 months ago

      The conservative LCMS even had to publicly declare itself to be an anti fascist organization (but not ANTIFA, of course) when some neonazi pastor was pushing for Lutherans to return to their German roots