While I was at college the Asian and Pacific Islander Coalition (campus identity group) ended due to tensions between the men and women. Most of my friends were asian dudes so I learned a bit about the situation. The level of mistrust and resentment they would tell me about was insane. One told me about the death glares he got from Asian Women after hooking up with a WW. I couldn't imagine carrying the kind of cultural baggage I saw my friends dealing with.
i was big friends with the chinese group at our campus and there was a ton of just really gross attitudes from the men, i really dont blame the women for the kneejerk reaction of just avoiding asian spaces at campus altogether as a result just to avoid those bad apples. long story short the asian men felt like they were owed sex and relationships from the girls in the group right out of the gate before even really getting to know them. so much so that the older male chinese professor that created the group (and fun fact was a communist party member and my favorite teacher of all time, he was fucking awesome, we'd eat lunch together every day and play chess) started kicking guys out of it for creepy behavior.
That's terrible. I can understand the frustration of feeling like you can only date asian women but then asian women being able to date any race. But letting that turn into misogyny is a you problem. My guy friends were obviously better than that. One of them showed me some of the self hating reddit communities he used to be apart of and told me about how he used to resent asian women. For him the biggest difference maker was that he magically became hot between 17 and 19. That plus leaving home is what helped him grow out of it.
That professor sounds great though. I think the first communists I met were at DSA meetings. Oh, I randomly met one guy at college who was a self described stalinist. I only ever learned about it because one of his friends came up to me, very concerned, and told me he's a Stalinist. I was a pretty anti soviet anarchist at the time but all I did was shrug my shoulders and tell him, "at least he's not a fascist." I hope that was enough to maintain their friendship. Thankfully most of the gay women and trans people I meet are lefties. Liberalism is big dying
While I was at college the Asian and Pacific Islander Coalition (campus identity group) ended due to tensions between the men and women. Most of my friends were asian dudes so I learned a bit about the situation. The level of mistrust and resentment they would tell me about was insane. One told me about the death glares he got from Asian Women after hooking up with a WW. I couldn't imagine carrying the kind of cultural baggage I saw my friends dealing with.
i was big friends with the chinese group at our campus and there was a ton of just really gross attitudes from the men, i really dont blame the women for the kneejerk reaction of just avoiding asian spaces at campus altogether as a result just to avoid those bad apples. long story short the asian men felt like they were owed sex and relationships from the girls in the group right out of the gate before even really getting to know them. so much so that the older male chinese professor that created the group (and fun fact was a communist party member and my favorite teacher of all time, he was fucking awesome, we'd eat lunch together every day and play chess) started kicking guys out of it for creepy behavior.
That's terrible. I can understand the frustration of feeling like you can only date asian women but then asian women being able to date any race. But letting that turn into misogyny is a you problem. My guy friends were obviously better than that. One of them showed me some of the self hating reddit communities he used to be apart of and told me about how he used to resent asian women. For him the biggest difference maker was that he magically became hot between 17 and 19. That plus leaving home is what helped him grow out of it.
That professor sounds great though. I think the first communists I met were at DSA meetings. Oh, I randomly met one guy at college who was a self described stalinist. I only ever learned about it because one of his friends came up to me, very concerned, and told me he's a Stalinist. I was a pretty anti soviet anarchist at the time but all I did was shrug my shoulders and tell him, "at least he's not a fascist." I hope that was enough to maintain their friendship. Thankfully most of the gay women and trans people I meet are lefties. Liberalism is big dying