Kinda seriously though, without the system of care and communication around it, power play and rough sex can be pretty harmful and if someone doesn't want to take the effort to do that care, yeah maybe they do have something going on.
my bf and i are very in tune at this point, he aftercares the fuck out of me and it helps with my ptsd so much. without my bf i dont know where id be :left-unity-4:
he sometimes brings me chocolate and feeds it to me... idk if anyone knows this but chewing can help with post sex ptsd symptoms. he sometimes catches my ptsd before i do, i love him so much
What no aftercare does to a motherfucker.
Kinda seriously though, without the system of care and communication around it, power play and rough sex can be pretty harmful and if someone doesn't want to take the effort to do that care, yeah maybe they do have something going on.
Your take is nuanced and good. :order-of-lenin:
Shit, my partner and I need proper aftercare just after normal, loving sex. Going without after rougher stuff sounds miserable
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my bf and i are very in tune at this point, he aftercares the fuck out of me and it helps with my ptsd so much. without my bf i dont know where id be :left-unity-4:
he sometimes brings me chocolate and feeds it to me... idk if anyone knows this but chewing can help with post sex ptsd symptoms. he sometimes catches my ptsd before i do, i love him so much
Huh, makes sense though. A lot of people chew gum to help with nerves. Something about doing the action of eating associating with being safe?
Yeah it was floated in my support group and it worked wonders for me
this! aftercare is really important
There are times where you just need a glass of chilled herbal tea...