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housing benefits, money, childcare, and more!

    • Aceivan [they/them]
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      1 year ago

      oh god are we doing the "DAE school is a prison" thing again?

      Why can you not accept that while not for everyone, being a parent is an important part of life (as in it literally makes human life possible), and for many is very rewarding. All the fucking issues with raising kids is because america also forces people, except the wealthy, to work full time or more through their child's upbringing.

      • HexbearGPT [comrade/them]
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        1 year ago

        So if those issues exist, and we haven’t been able to fix them (and in fact Capitalism looks to be a run away algorithm that will end all life on earth someday) why would you have kids, again?

        • Aceivan [they/them]
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          If you don't believe a better world is possible: why are you even here? If you do: you can try to leave a better world for them, and your kids can keep on fighting the good fight. Just because we won't overthrow capitalism this generation doesn't mean that there shouldn't be a next generation, or that only libs and fascists should have kids because they're winning right now.

          Also maybe this isn't you, it's just a thought, but I think a fundamental reason a lot of people are anti-natalist is because they wish they hadn't been born. And that sucks, but it's the human condition, we don't get to decide the circumstances of our birth, and most people simply do not feel that way.

        • Outdoor_Catgirl [she/her, they/them]
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          1 year ago

          Cw suicide

          spoiler

          If nothing will ever get better, and nonexistence is preferable to existing, why haven't you sought euthanasia? Anyone who genuinely believes anrinatalist ideology should logically extend it to themselves. It's because anrinatalists aren't genuine.

              • HexbearGPT [comrade/them]
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                1 year ago

                thinking having kids is a bad idea is not the same thing as thinking everyone already alive should kill themselves. stop making straw man arguments if you are so confident. it's embarrassing. i'm not even against having kids, i just don't like people trying to tell me to do so when i don't want any.

                get better at making arguments if you want to be a successful leftist.

    • zifnab25 [he/him, any]
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      1 year ago

      there were 1 million and one posts from parents complaining that they were not stuck at home with their awful children that they couldn’t ship off to learning jail.

      I know a lot of people who were effectively told "You need to be online 24/7 now, because you're working from home" on top of being told "we're shutting off that daily child care service that affords you time to do a normal 9-5" and that fucking sucked. But if you're being told that kids are getting in the way of doing your job, then you're buying into some seriously fucked propaganda if you decide the problem is your kids.

      Plus most everyone I know attributes their mental health problems to their parents sucking, myself included.

      The worst psychic trauma I ever suffered was losing my dad in an accident when I was 11 years old. I have friends and extended family who grew up without a parent - due to death or divorce or what have you - and its enormously difficult relative to having both parents (even not-great parents) in the house and able to do parenting.

      most parents I know have bags under their eyes and a blank look on their face as the moan about the miseries of child rearing

      Your life inevitably begins to revolve around your kids as you get older. But a critical caveat to that is your kids making friends and you getting a second lease on a social life by way of that network of parents. I have found its incredibly difficult to meet other adults and form friends out of college. That's in no small part due to work life being so divorced from home life. I don't live on a street with a dozen of my coworkers, we're all scattered across the city. But as kids socialize with each other, local families inevitably form new bonds and new relationships.

      I had bags under my eyes in college. I've had bags under my eyes while on some crazy work project. Bags-under-the-eyes is just a way of life sometimes. But what I'm working for, when I have an opportunity to parent, is worth so much more than anything I do for a paycheck. And there are a host of knock on benefits that I feel go unmentioned.

      their explanations often sound like a drug addiction. “Oh yeah it triggers some special breeding chemicals in my brain that FEEL SO GOOD!”

      We're chemical animals. If you're feeling good, its because your brain is releasing Feel Good sensations. That's true whether you're dancing, playing video games, fucking, or raising your kids.

      The difference between doing a line of cocaine and taking care of a toddler should be fairly obvious.

    • CannotSleep420
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      1 year ago

      Oh yeah it triggers some special breeding chemicals in my brain that FEEL SO GOOD!

      Rick and Morty tier take.