Everyone always claims to hate drama but the reality is that drama is slop. The question is whether you have the self-awareness to identify when you are stirring the pot and the self-control to keep yourself in check once you're aware of it, and imo people who can't admit to finding it entertaining are the ones least likely to possess that self-awareness.
The #1 source of struggle sessions is and will always be boredom.
They may not be enjoying it, but their brains would rather be angry than bored. Brains hate boredom more than anything in the world. Anger, sadness, loneliness, frustration, hatred - brains prefer any of them over sitting around with nothing to think about.
I also think people here just don't like each other. Not active hatred but more of a this-person-is-cool-in-small-doses-but-drives-me-fucking-mad-if-I'm-stuck-with-them-for-over-5-hour way. And I say this as someone who has been caught up in their fair share of struggle sessions. Do people really care about outdoor cats or stacking rocks or bidets or is this just cover for them to shit on other people who they don't like? And this is not even considering certain segments of this website who do actively hate each other (vegans vs carnists).
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Looks at the loser trying to harass you with 8 alts
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But anyways, the struggle sessions here remind me of people in a long-term relationship who argue over the most trivial shit. Most people would recognize that the trivial shit isn't actually important but merely a symptom of a dysfunctional relationship. I have been caught up in between an argument on how to trim some orange tree that devolved into some 4+ hour argument. Obviously, no one involved actually cared about some shitty orange tree. The argument was just the breaking point of a deteriorating relationship, the only different between here and them being that they are emotionally invested in their relationship and want to repair it.
I don't see why this same basic principle can't be applied here. It's either that or just saying people here are terminally online weirdos. I used to think so, but I've decided to move away from this since routine grass touchers exhibit the same pattern of behavior even if it's in a different social context. Plus, calling people you don't like terminally online weirdos is just self-aggrandizement on top of being ableist.
I also think people here just don't like each other. Not active hatred but more of a this-person-is-cool-in-small-doses-but-drives-me-fucking-mad-if-I'm-stuck-with-them-for-over-5-hour way.
There's only like one person I feel this way about.
Everyone always claims to hate drama but the reality is that drama is slop. The question is whether you have the self-awareness to identify when you are stirring the pot and the self-control to keep yourself in check once you're aware of it, and imo people who can't admit to finding it entertaining are the ones least likely to possess that self-awareness.
The #1 source of struggle sessions is and will always be boredom.
I feel like the people participating are on average not enjoying it
Shamelessly admitting that I love opening a thread for the first time with 100+ comments of dumb slop
They may not be enjoying it, but their brains would rather be angry than bored. Brains hate boredom more than anything in the world. Anger, sadness, loneliness, frustration, hatred - brains prefer any of them over sitting around with nothing to think about.
I also think people here just don't like each other. Not active hatred but more of a this-person-is-cool-in-small-doses-but-drives-me-fucking-mad-if-I'm-stuck-with-them-for-over-5-hour way. And I say this as someone who has been caught up in their fair share of struggle sessions. Do people really care about outdoor cats or stacking rocks or bidets or is this just cover for them to shit on other people who they don't like? And this is not even considering certain segments of this website who do actively hate each other (vegans vs carnists).
Edit: Looks at a bunch of soon-to-be-deleted comments. Yep, this is 100% proving my point.
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Looks at the loser trying to harass you with 8 alts
Jesus Christ
But anyways, the struggle sessions here remind me of people in a long-term relationship who argue over the most trivial shit. Most people would recognize that the trivial shit isn't actually important but merely a symptom of a dysfunctional relationship. I have been caught up in between an argument on how to trim some orange tree that devolved into some 4+ hour argument. Obviously, no one involved actually cared about some shitty orange tree. The argument was just the breaking point of a deteriorating relationship, the only different between here and them being that they are emotionally invested in their relationship and want to repair it.
I don't see why this same basic principle can't be applied here. It's either that or just saying people here are terminally online weirdos. I used to think so, but I've decided to move away from this since routine grass touchers exhibit the same pattern of behavior even if it's in a different social context. Plus, calling people you don't like terminally online weirdos is just self-aggrandizement on top of being ableist.
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There's only like one person I feel this way about.
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I don't recall anyone expressing that opinion here.
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the devil finds work for idle hands. People who are bored will often just cause trouble