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  • Zuzak [fae/faer, she/her]
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    1 year ago

    Everyone always claims to hate drama but the reality is that drama is slop. The question is whether you have the self-awareness to identify when you are stirring the pot and the self-control to keep yourself in check once you're aware of it, and imo people who can't admit to finding it entertaining are the ones least likely to possess that self-awareness.

    The #1 source of struggle sessions is and will always be boredom.

    • GaveUp [she/her]
      hexagon
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      1 year ago

      I feel like the people participating are on average not enjoying it

      Shamelessly admitting that I love opening a thread for the first time with 100+ comments of dumb slop

      • Zuzak [fae/faer, she/her]
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        1 year ago

        They may not be enjoying it, but their brains would rather be angry than bored. Brains hate boredom more than anything in the world. Anger, sadness, loneliness, frustration, hatred - brains prefer any of them over sitting around with nothing to think about.

    • AssortedBiscuits [they/them]
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      1 year ago

      I also think people here just don't like each other. Not active hatred but more of a this-person-is-cool-in-small-doses-but-drives-me-fucking-mad-if-I'm-stuck-with-them-for-over-5-hour way. And I say this as someone who has been caught up in their fair share of struggle sessions. Do people really care about outdoor cats or stacking rocks or bidets or is this just cover for them to shit on other people who they don't like? And this is not even considering certain segments of this website who do actively hate each other (vegans vs carnists).

      Edit: Looks at a bunch of soon-to-be-deleted comments. Yep, this is 100% proving my point.

    • Frank [he/him, he/him]
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      1 year ago

      Everyone always claims to hate drama

      I don't recall anyone expressing that opinion here.

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      • usernamesaredifficul [he/him]
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        1 year ago

        I think there was also some dismissal of everyone in the country as a racist yokel in that thread which is also pretty narrow minded and rude

        no one covered themselves in glory there

        • PaulSmackage [he/him, comrade/them]
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          1 year ago

          The small town i grew up near is basically plastered in pride flags and every child matters ribbons all year round, which is obviously far from the norm, but is just an example that not all rural areas are inherently reactionary by default.

      • PaulSmackage [he/him, comrade/them]
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        1 year ago

        All that thread did was make me go "cities are cool and fun to visit, but i am just not adapted to that environment for extended periods of time."

          • PaulSmackage [he/him, comrade/them]
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            1 year ago

            Yeah, i found the hostility between the two sides in that thread to be more confusing than anything. Each has its perks, and the experience in either area is not universal.

    • Chapo_is_Red [he/him]
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      1 year ago

      There's a weird thing where some people go, "oh you believe X? Then you must support Y terrible thing." (See the Falkland struggle session)

        • Chapo_is_Red [he/him]
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          1 year ago

          That's true, but its used disingenuously a lot to strawman people.

          For example, believing the Falklands shouldn't be a British colony, doesn't also mean believing that everyone currently living there should be deported.

    • MiraculousMM [he/him, any]M
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      1 year ago

      Gonna shamelessly plug my effortpost on this very topic from a while back (feels like its been more than 6 months tbh lol).

      Now that we've reforked to Lemmy I would add a 4th main point: use the Block function amply! If someone or some comm consistently grinds your gears and hurts your enjoyment of the site, just save yourself the psychic damage and slam that Block button, that's what it's there for.

    • usernamesaredifficul [he/him]
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      1 year ago

      If we could just assume that everyone on this site is probably at least well meaning then I think we could have a much better culture around disagreements

    • Tervell [he/him]
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      1 year ago

      I think this site might benefit from having a sort of "good faith" rule

      I think we actually do have that already (although it seems like the Code of Conduct still hasn't been updated, and trawling through old /c/announcement threads definitely isn't the optimal way of finding rules).

      The rules there should cover most of this, but I'm not sure how thoroughly they're enforced, which isn't the fault of the mods necessarily, they're not omnipresent and need to actually have people report stuff to them (and I'm not sure how many users actually regularly report stuff, I know for myself that I'd rather just skip over a thread or comment chain that's getting mean than read through the whole thing and try to figure out who to report). Also, as a non-American timezone haver I've noticed that I tend to miss all the drama, so maybe our mods are also disproportionately in other timezones and end up only being able to come in when things have already deteriorated?

      • CannotSleep420
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        1 year ago

        Hexbear could always do what Lemmygrad does and put code of conduct on the site sidebar on the homepage.

  • Bobson_Dugnutt [he/him]
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    1 year ago

    If a comment/post is longer than two paragraphs, I don't read it. This policy has significantly improved my mental health.

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    1 year ago

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    • Dick_Guy_The_Revengeanting [none/use name]
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      1 year ago

      You don't need to walk me through the history of the site. I have been here since the sub, unfortunately. I check out a lot and it just turns into a parody of itself

  • AssortedBiscuits [they/them]
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    1 year ago

    Reading the "why would anybody live in a big city" thread made me realize this because some of those arguments were ridiculous

    That thread was terrible because people were arguing whether the city or country is worse when everyone knows suburbs are easily the worst of them all.

  • Frank [he/him, he/him]
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    1 year ago

    Yes? I don't recall any of the internationales splitting over whether cats can have "a little" salami or "little a" salami.

    • GaveUp [she/her]
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      1 year ago

      Well generally the big arguments are political in nature

      The nature rock stacking thing, the living in city thing was framed politically and lots of arguments were political

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        • GaveUp [she/her]
          hexagon
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          1 year ago

          There is no issue, I love reading these threads lol

          I sometimes get new perspectives too

          This post was not a complaint post

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    • usernamesaredifficul [he/him]
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      1 year ago

      the bolsheviks and the mensheviks split over a whether the manifesto should say "members should be guided by the party" or "members should be directed by the party"

  • hopelesscomrade [they/them]
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    1 year ago

    Ive come to realize that it's because everyone on the left is severely depressed and barley hanging on. No one can do anything except work their shitty job and/or rot in a bed room and look at their phone. I was considering coming back to this site after a year of having to cool done, but no I still hate everything. Everything I do is pointless and a waste of time, because my existence is a waste of time because it's just going to be a slow collapse as the environment fails and everything is melted to nothing so the profits can remain consistent

    • ZoomeristLeninist [comrade/them, she/her]M
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      1 year ago

      ur existence is not a waste of time. im sorry you feel like ur life is pointless, but im sure it isnt. all life is an incredible gift and communists should be determined to preserve and prolong life. i am 100% positive that you matter. and you should internalize that bc you cant work for the betterment of the world if you dont work for yourself, ur loved ones, and ur community

      ik capitalism makes our lives miserable, im wishing you the best

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    1 year ago

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  • Bjork_shhh [none/use name]
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    1 year ago

    >says "all of you are terminally online"

    >uses the armchair jargon term "struggle session"

    wonder-who-thats-for

  • richietozier4 [he/him]
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    1 year ago

    Ice Spice, Carly Rae Jepsen, and Cupcakke should form a triumvirate and install themselves as the dictators of the United States

    • GaveUp [she/her]
      hexagon
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      1 year ago

      Are you accusing me of fedposting or are you calling the post flag-gay-pride

  • Albanian_Lil_Pump [he/him]
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    1 year ago

    It’s like being around LoL players. Annoying, miserable people who don’t even like the game but still play because someone called them a name

    • Goblinmancer [any]
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      1 year ago

      gg wp jungle diff

      me explaining why the only people who actually had fun in LoL are mid players.

        • Goblinmancer [any]
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          1 year ago

          Top Lane is fun until irelia decides to violate my human rights (RIP yorick)

          Actually top has singed so you are right top is best followed by mid

      • quartz242 [she/her]
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        1 year ago

        ok let me counter pick you so that you can spend 30 minutes last hitting every creep to get destroyed by the enemies bot lane who had jungle and mid-roam support the entire early-mid game

        SOUNDS SO MUCH FUN

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          • quartz242 [she/her]
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            1 year ago

            ive never had a single game in over 15 years of gaming tilt me so hard I would seek out irl fights to cope with the salt

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                • GarbageShoot [he/him]
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                  1 year ago

                  But haven't you considered the profitability of eSports and seasonal microtransactions?

        • Goblinmancer [any]
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          1 year ago

          So like top lane but less extreme matchup.

          Still better than jungle (expected to be everywhere) adc (cant do anything early and gets 1 shotted) and support (gets reported for roaming)

          Also say what about the wind brothers but gameplay wise they are actually really fun to play.

    • MiraculousMM [he/him, any]M
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      1 year ago

      This is why ARAM is the only good game mode and even there the gamer-brains drag down the whole experience