• Vladimir_Lentil [she/her]
    hexagon
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    1 year ago

    gender ≠ pronouns. Any person of any pronouns can be any gender, so there can be someone who identifies as a woman but goes by he/him. Pronouns are heavily associated with gender so usually people go by the set typically thought as going with their gender, but that does not have to be the case. Sometimes nonbinary people can also use the term lesbian to describe themselves, but not always. Gender is a very personal thing, it's all about finding what feels comfortable to you, the labels exist to help find a sense of meaning, not to be something to be dogmatically adhered to

    also main so my comment doesn't get removed

    • usernamesaredifficul [he/him]
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      1 year ago

      I'm confused aren't pronouns the language we use to indicate and refer to gender. If I say she what am I talking about if not a feminine person/thing (because english does gender ships)

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      • AcidSmiley [she/her]
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        1 year ago

        Talking of ships, how the fuck is a ship feminine? In a grammatical sense, it has a feminine genus. Other languages, like French or Dutch or German, randomly apply a grammatical gender (genus) to any noun. Some languages have grammatical genders to differentiate between wild and domesticated animals, or between tools and other inanimate objects or w/e.

        Language has a relation to gender that's mainly arbitrary. It's all made up at the end of the day. I go by she / her pronouns because i'm a woman and she / her is the common grammatical signifier for that and i like being recognized and validated in my womanhood, but other women just go by they / them instead, just look at Judith Butler. I'd fucking murder you for they / theming me, but for them, it's a different matter, they just have a different relation to their womanhood that's better described in its complexities by they / them, so that's what they go with.