It's ruining my life. And the irony is it's the only way to dissociate from bad things. At least it seems like that's the only way. Feels like the snake that eats its own tail.
Edit: thank you all for the good advice and support. It means a lot. I love my comrades. 
Mutual aid societies do work. AA, Smart Recovery, whatever sounds better to you. Get to a meeting and raise your hand and ask for help.