So much of the "be yourself" stuff is misguided. We feel pressured to conform to weird standards by massive media and social pressure and if we don't conform to that pressure to some degree we're all going to have trouble. Like even if you don't care about it, styling your hair some kind of way is going to improve how people see you. Whether that's getting a hawk for the punks or a clean crew cut for the suits hair matters, even to people who don't care much about hair. Same thing with clothes - learning how to dress to fit your sub-culture of choice helps like recognize like, sets you apart as having a culture,
Figuring out a personal style or learning to cop fashion trends, assuming you're at least okay at it and it's targetted towards the people you want to be around, is just going to help. People who put some degree of effort in to how they dress are almost always more visually appealing. Wearing the right shibboleths - a band t-shirt, a battle jacket, docs, a carabiner and keys, a red and black bandana, is going to make certain people categorize you as "people like us" instead of "the other" (though beware accusations of being a poser. People can say we're in a post-authenticiy age all they want, but culture soldiers on regardless).
Hopefully you can find stuff you don't hate - textures and fabrics that feel good, clothing pieces that flatter your shape, colors and patterns that appeal to you, and work that in to a look.
What if you're doing that already? And you look like shit? And that's half the problem?
I wish this was followed by concrete advice instead of "wear what looks good on you." What if you don't have the skill to judge? It's like asking you to fix your own plumbing. Technically do-able, but really not.
taste is something that is refined. head over to the fashion com we have if you haven't already. also get something like pinterest or tic tok for style inspiration, there lots of accounts all about how to dress well.
So much of the "be yourself" stuff is misguided. We feel pressured to conform to weird standards by massive media and social pressure and if we don't conform to that pressure to some degree we're all going to have trouble. Like even if you don't care about it, styling your hair some kind of way is going to improve how people see you. Whether that's getting a hawk for the punks or a clean crew cut for the suits hair matters, even to people who don't care much about hair. Same thing with clothes - learning how to dress to fit your sub-culture of choice helps like recognize like, sets you apart as having a culture,
Figuring out a personal style or learning to cop fashion trends, assuming you're at least okay at it and it's targetted towards the people you want to be around, is just going to help. People who put some degree of effort in to how they dress are almost always more visually appealing. Wearing the right shibboleths - a band t-shirt, a battle jacket, docs, a carabiner and keys, a red and black bandana, is going to make certain people categorize you as "people like us" instead of "the other" (though beware accusations of being a poser. People can say we're in a post-authenticiy age all they want, but culture soldiers on regardless).
Hopefully you can find stuff you don't hate - textures and fabrics that feel good, clothing pieces that flatter your shape, colors and patterns that appeal to you, and work that in to a look.
What if you're doing that already? And you look like shit? And that's half the problem?
I wish this was followed by concrete advice instead of "wear what looks good on you." What if you don't have the skill to judge? It's like asking you to fix your own plumbing. Technically do-able, but really not.
taste is something that is refined. head over to the fashion com we have if you haven't already. also get something like pinterest or tic tok for style inspiration, there lots of accounts all about how to dress well.
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