30 year old virgin. Can confirm. I live in a small city and it's impossible to meet new people.
Talking to strangers is almost a taboo here in Norway, and most people have completely unrealistic standards for their partners.
It seems my generation has had their expectations of a relationship warped by movies, social media and porn. Listen to any person talk about their preferences in a partner, and it will sound like they are describing a commodity to impress their friends with,instead of a partner to share their life with.
There are no places to meet anyone, no places where you can interact with strangers, and no chance to ever find a partner unless you have a ton of money, movie-like looks and ambitions.
As a neurodivergent working class dude, I'm fucked. And I'm not blaming women or anything. I blame capitalism for destroying our social lives.
I was 28 when I finally lost mine. As far as it being a big deal... it isn't. The intimacy and companionship is the real reward. I think I have seen 4chan posts before when one loses their virginity and they are kind of devastated realizing it wasn't the life changing event they had been long told it was. They didn't feel their "status" change. They didn't feel themselves ascending or becoming ethereal. They just had some fun for a few minutes (if that).
Ironically the thing that stuck out the most to me when it first happened is that it is kind of awkward.
It is kind of horrifying what the dating scene probably looks like now. It feels like every person I would try to date is going to be a hyper-individualistic and judgemental person that is lashing out at everything social media told them to hate. I feel like inevitably I would end up in their crosshairs. Perhaps I am wrong about the average person, but based on my co-workers that it what it feels like.
30 year old virgin. Can confirm. I live in a small city and it's impossible to meet new people.
Talking to strangers is almost a taboo here in Norway, and most people have completely unrealistic standards for their partners.
It seems my generation has had their expectations of a relationship warped by movies, social media and porn. Listen to any person talk about their preferences in a partner, and it will sound like they are describing a commodity to impress their friends with,instead of a partner to share their life with.
There are no places to meet anyone, no places where you can interact with strangers, and no chance to ever find a partner unless you have a ton of money, movie-like looks and ambitions.
As a neurodivergent working class dude, I'm fucked. And I'm not blaming women or anything. I blame capitalism for destroying our social lives.
I was 28 when I finally lost mine. As far as it being a big deal... it isn't. The intimacy and companionship is the real reward. I think I have seen 4chan posts before when one loses their virginity and they are kind of devastated realizing it wasn't the life changing event they had been long told it was. They didn't feel their "status" change. They didn't feel themselves ascending or becoming ethereal. They just had some fun for a few minutes (if that).
Ironically the thing that stuck out the most to me when it first happened is that it is kind of awkward.
It is kind of horrifying what the dating scene probably looks like now. It feels like every person I would try to date is going to be a hyper-individualistic and judgemental person that is lashing out at everything social media told them to hate. I feel like inevitably I would end up in their crosshairs. Perhaps I am wrong about the average person, but based on my co-workers that it what it feels like.