BIGGER AND MORE PRIDEFUL THAN EVER BEFORE trans-ferret trans-hydra

  • BountifulEggnog [they/them]
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    4 days ago
    outdated/cis views of gender and being trans

    Its hard to explain, but I guess I don't/won't see myself as a woman until I start presenting that way/passing (which will probably involve hrt and maybe I won't even then but I'll try not to get too doomer on something I haven't even started). I don't know, I just feel like I'm a guy who wants to be a girl, not necessarily a girl trapped in a guy's body (although I am trapped in this body). I'm probably not making sense. But I won't see myself as a woman until I get out of this guy body. And I feel like a lot of trans people do view themselves that way, as being the gender they want to be before transitioning.

    I guess in general I feel like how I look (body/presentation) and am perceived is my gender, not what I wish I was. What I wish I was is just that, what I want. Not what I am.

    • ashinadash [she/her, comrade/them]
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      4 days ago
      ooh spicy

      That's sort of a thorny cross-section of personal views on gender with the facts of gender itself, I suppose... On the one hand, it's true that many binary trans people do view it that way, and like, if you don't "feel" like a girl yet (even though you know you are, or I guess want to be) that's down to you, I think. But it's also like, just because your body does not align with your actual gender doesn't make you not that gender, or less deserving to be addressed as such.

      I will say though, I find the phrase "get out of this guy body" a little funny; you will be heavily modifying that body to suit you, to be more comfortable and happy anya-heh

      Again, I understand not feeling like that yet, like it's just what you want and not what you are, but your physical form and presentation do not determine your gender, people's perception sure as hell does not determine your gender. That would be bad news for our boymoding comrades bocchi-cry

      • BountifulEggnog [they/them]
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        4 days ago
        spoiler + dysphoria

        I'm a little surprised other people view it this way, it felt like I was alone in that.

        just because your body does not align with your actual gender doesn't make you not that gender

        I just don't feel it, at least not now/yet. It feels so weird to say I'm a woman when I'm so... unwomanly.

        Right now I wish I could just climb out of this corpse, but yea the best I can get is retrofitting it to be less bad.

        I know it would be, and obviously I completely respect whatever feels best for other people.

        • ashinadash [she/her, comrade/them]
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          4 days ago
          spoiler

          It used to be the default way, all this other cool and funny stuff is relatively new.

          Well like I say, how you feel about your own gender is down to you, you're allowed to feel and be however about it. You don't "have to" say you're anything ✨

          "I want to climb out of this corpse" also not an uncommon sentiment meow-hug

          Lol I know I was just goofin, mb