Just because you don't let everyone know something doesn't mean you're actively keeping secrets and should feel bad.
I took a huge shit today and me not telling everyone that isn't because I'm keeping secrets or hiding it, it just isnt for everyone who isn't reading this comment to know
I mean that's legit. Trust is fragile and precious, the uncertainty of not knowing how people whose opinions you value will react is a very reasonable thing to be concerned about.
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think it's easier to just say it than to do the gymnastics to find the right analogy here. it's hard to give advice without the real context.
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The right play would probably have been to make an anonymous throwaway account and just asked directly
Hope it worked out for you though :)
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Just because you don't let everyone know something doesn't mean you're actively keeping secrets and should feel bad.
I took a huge shit today and me not telling everyone that isn't because I'm keeping secrets or hiding it, it just isnt for everyone who isn't reading this comment to know
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I mean that's legit. Trust is fragile and precious, the uncertainty of not knowing how people whose opinions you value will react is a very reasonable thing to be concerned about.