I'm not sure if I want to open myself up about "this". It's not because I feel vulnerable, but because some people might think less of me for it. In a way, it's showing someone a massive weak spot that could be used against me. So, while I'm writing this, it seems obvious to me that it is foolish. Yet still, I have a lingering urge to share some of these feelings.

Truthfully, I have never shared this with anyone. Not even in a therapy setting have I felt comfortable enough to do so. I did nothing illegal, so don't worry. Its also nothing sex related.

Hypothetical. Imagine I killed someone in self-defense. Even if people might be sympathetic, they would view me differently after I told them that. It would change my relationship with them. This is just an example for something that has the potential to greatly change the dynamic between people.

I DIDNT KILL SOMEONE.

Any input would be appreciated.

EDIT OK. I talked with someone about it. Feel a bit better. Probably wont disclose it on Hexbear but thanks for all the input.

  • silent_water [she/her]
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    4 months ago

    think it's easier to just say it than to do the gymnastics to find the right analogy here. it's hard to give advice without the real context.

    • Comp4 [comrade/them]
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      4 months ago

      I might make a follow up post or I wont but I gotta think about how/what to say.

      • AOCapitulator [they/them, she/her]
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        4 months ago

        The right play would probably have been to make an anonymous throwaway account and just asked directly

        Hope it worked out for you though :)

        • Comp4 [comrade/them]
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          4 months ago

          I didn't think of that, but now it would be very obvious... I shared it with one person and it went well. After pondering about it, there would be little gained from sharing it on Hexbear. I do want to share it with people that I care about, though. I don't like keeping secrets.

          • Blockocheese [any]
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            4 months ago

            Just because you don't let everyone know something doesn't mean you're actively keeping secrets and should feel bad.

            I took a huge shit today and me not telling everyone that isn't because I'm keeping secrets or hiding it, it just isnt for everyone who isn't reading this comment to know

            • Comp4 [comrade/them]
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              4 months ago

              I meant keeping secrets that are relevant and in regards to people close to me. I want people that I like to truly know me. That includes secrets that might not be selling points.