"am i a terf? no, its the trans that are excluding me!" i, a strong independant womyn, say as i sip my double foam low fat caramel mochachino pumpkinspice frappe latte at my in-home starbucks outlet, before hitting submit on my latest and most brilliant tweet, the warm fuzzy sense of both delicious coffee-product and an overwhelming belief in my own smug superiority settling within me.