So I just had a rather breakthrough therapy session that's making me really question my sexual orientation. So far as I've always thought, I've been straight. I'm a guy currently married to a straight woman. I realized I have deep romantic feelings for a male friend of mine. But here's the thing, I've never felt this way about other guys. I've never looked at guys the same way I've looked at girls. Never felt the desire to watch gay porn. I had an opportunity to hook up with a guy once when I had a threesome with him and his girlfriend, but didn't want to. Yet when my friend came to visit recently, I felt a deep romantic, and even physical, attraction to him. Is it possible to be gay just for a single person?

Idk why but it wasn't easy for me to write this up. But figure I should start trying to figure this stuff out. I'm feeling really confused right now and could use some insight from my LGBTQ comrades.

  • a_jug_of_marx_piss [he/him]
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    4 years ago

    I spent most of my youth flipping between identifying as straight and bi. This was because I falsely thougt that being bi meant being attracted to men and women in the same way and amount, which definitely isn't the case for me.

    In the end all the ways in which we categorize human sexuality are just simple models of a much more complex system. The categorization is definitely useful for understanding yourself, but you should not feel limited by it.