So I just had a rather breakthrough therapy session that's making me really question my sexual orientation. So far as I've always thought, I've been straight. I'm a guy currently married to a straight woman. I realized I have deep romantic feelings for a male friend of mine. But here's the thing, I've never felt this way about other guys. I've never looked at guys the same way I've looked at girls. Never felt the desire to watch gay porn. I had an opportunity to hook up with a guy once when I had a threesome with him and his girlfriend, but didn't want to. Yet when my friend came to visit recently, I felt a deep romantic, and even physical, attraction to him. Is it possible to be gay just for a single person?
Idk why but it wasn't easy for me to write this up. But figure I should start trying to figure this stuff out. I'm feeling really confused right now and could use some insight from my LGBTQ comrades.
Oof. I can feel your confusion from here. But it’s okay! Based on what you’ve said, maybe you can call yourself Straight+? Straight, but with a very rare attraction to a dude every once in a while. Not ideal, but I don’t know if I’d label someone like you as bisexual. At least not right now. There’s no need to put any labels on yourself at all. You’re married and, I assume, monogamous? If you’re not actually interested in pursuing this man, it’s probably just a crush you’ll get over eventually. The heart wants what the heart wants, man. You’re attracted to who you’re attracted to.
It might take you some time to work through it and you’ll turn it over in your mind a lot, but this is an opportunity for you to learn more about yourself and live a more enriched life because of it. Also, maybe talk to your wife about it? Good luck, comrade.