As a transwoman, I understand that feeling of acceptedness within the Chapo community and I can imagine the feeling of betrayal that they must be feeling. I joined about a year ago at one of the lowest and most pivotal points of my life and the community has helped me to grow as a person and to really turn my life around for the better. I'm personally trying my best to provide the same safe and protecting community for trans and non-binary people here that I saw in the subreddit that allowed me to blossom so heavily. However, a blank slate means you let go of the things that happened in the past and we all move forward on this new platform, where I have taken steps to ensure that trans people are more protected so situations like this do not arise. Spamming the Lemmy does not constitute a move forward.
Marie stated in one comment that, "I was, unfortunately, misgendered by someone on the discord (and had been multiple times by that point) and so I expressed my feelings that not enough was being done to protect trans comrades." If they looked at the trans and non-binary dedicated community, they would see several points where I have provided updates on the site-wide pronoun tags (entirely separate from community flair, I might add) that are coming down the pipeline of updates, which I strongly pushed for and had the pleasure of discussing and brainstorming with the developers to make a reality. I personally didn't think the Discord had the capability to fully prevent misgendering because it would require someone to click on another person's profile and self-investigate? So how could that be improved moving away from the Discord? On the Lemmy, pronouns will be immediately next to your name site-wide leaving no excuse for misgendering going forward.
Someone else stated that "it’s kind of depressing that lgbt spaces here are empty" and "it raises the issue of what the priority is in affirmatively making sure there is a space here in chapo for our queer comrades to have a home, vs being a home for cis comrades to affirm their own perceived tolerance." It's hard to pull people to Lemmy when there is no guarantee I can prevent things like misgendering otherwise I personally would be trying to pull all of my trans and non-binary comrades here. It's actually one of my biggest concerns and I have addressed this concern in our space. I'm hesitant to really do anything in the trans and non-binary community until I can guarantee that no one will face dysphoria on that front.
I have discussed at-length with other moderators that I (and I can't stress this enough) DO NOT want cis people on my moderator board, as our people do not need cis people dictating the manner in which we can converse with each other about our trials and tribulations. Marie stated they want "reform" and for the "mod team to not be shit"? Here I fucking am. They want mods to be "held accountable for their actions"? I will absolutely swing for the fences for our people. "Will this ever happen?" they asked. Yes.
UPDATE:
I have tried everything possible to make amends. Yesterday on the statement I made allowing for any good faith grievances to be discussed, I received countless comments telling me to “talk to the Shorks”. Getting specific names of people in the Shork server was no easy feat, but I did it. I ended up reaching out to Shorkena, one of the moderators on the Shork server that Marie was kind enough to put me in contact with, and tried to pull together a group chat to have a good faith conversation about how to move forward. I tried everything to reach some sort of agreement. They’ve been spamming demanding that their voices and grievances be heard since we opened the Lemmy and I have gaven them multiple spaces space to freely do that and openly discuss grievances and how to move forward in good faith and they shuttered.
I gave them every opportunity I could possibly think to give and they squandered it and even went as far as mocking me within their own server and digging up drunken shitpost Tweets to openly mock me about instead of discussing their actual grievances with me, which you can see in the Imgur directory below.
I remained hopeful throughout all of this that I could pull something off and end all of this, but I have concluded there is no good faith attempt here anymore.
For all of those interested, here is every interaction I’ve had with any of them involved: https://imgur.com/a/rfN6joQ
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Someone asked me to make this a top-level comment since it might get buried otherwise since it's nested deep in the thread here, so here's a very long response to the Imgur album of chat logs with the admins and all of the associated claims regarding the Discord server and its staff that's been circling around, which I hope can answer some questions: https://hexbear.net/post/3351/comment/23404
this was pretty clear thanks
That link doesn't seem to direct me to any specific comment. Am I doin it wrong?
Weird, the link broke for me too. You should also be able to find it by Ctrl-F searching for "Looking through the log" on this page. You might have to scroll to the bottom to load older messages first.
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this is what the mods say is chibi: https://i.imgur.com/jArJz56.jpeg
for real though they were defending this: https://i.imgur.com/QwjDtnb.png
You really should be putting NSFW warnings on stuff like this. It's not really allowed here anyways (hence why other mods have been removing it) but it's not going to go away so I'll address it further.
Basically everyone I've asked, including both furries and non-furries, just say that the characters in that image look chibi to them. Someone that was even detached from all this drama was saying this same thing in another thread, and you refused to just look up the countless other chibi furry images that have the same appearance and proportions as the characters here: https://hexbear.net/post/3809/comment/25656
Those are background characters that aren't the focus of the image, so they're styled differently and in more cartoony fashion. They're the adult fursonas of friends of the artist. Again, this wasn't even a commission from Quill, it was just something drawn by an artist friend using Quill's character.
But of course, it's entirely subjective and it's impossible for me to prove what something looks like. The only other thing I can say is that the site it was hosted on, e621, has a massive legal requirement when it comes to tagging and blacklisting underage content due to their agreement with Cloudflare. Because of this, they're incredibly rapid and strict with that kind of shit. In the tags, there was absolutely no suggestion that there were any underage characters in the image. If the ages were remotely ambiguous, it would've been tagged that way, but to virtually everyone that's seen it, the thought of it being underage hasn't even crossed their minds.
Whenever a different staff member on the Discord revealed themselves to be an apologist for loli shit, they were immediately banned. We don't take this kind of thing lightly. But this idea being pushed about Quill is just totally at odds with reality, and it makes all of the accusations being made seem progressively more bad-faith from my perspective.