Skip the slop: it’s hard enough to be the single side piece for my other friends, and I don’t think I can mentally take that designation in another relationship. I’m not the closest with this person, so I feel as though I should break the relationship off cleanly but would like to be respectful while doing so. How should I do that?
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I have multiple friends (of all different genders) in my life which I am extremely thankful for but who are all partnered. To be quite honest though, I’ve never felt more lonely than hanging out with my partnered friends while tagging along as a single guy and the friendships no longer feel the same. It is always myself asking my friends to hang out and them bringing along their spouses or new partners (which they have the right to do but that doesn’t make it suck any less).
I had originally asked one of my last single friends if she was interested in going to a show with me a few weeks ago-It’s just a breath of fresh air to catch up with someone who is also in your same life position and alleviates the feeling of loneliness that comes with not having a +1 to share shit with. She texts me yesterday and asks if I would like to hang soon again, but then I learn that she is now partnered as well :(
hmm I think with my friends we regularly do activities where everyone brings their partner, and also stuff where it's the "original group". But, we've all know each other for a very long time, so maybe that makes things different. I also think it can be fun to hang out with a couple when you like both of them, but it's definitely weirder when you don't know the so.
Could you occasionally suggest stuff to do where there is a set number of people, like "I have three tickets to this show"? I guess they might just say no tho. Honestly it might turn out that as people find relationships your friends have less time and attention for you, and if you're lonely you'll have to meet some new people. Getting old sucks.
It’s getting old under a hyper-individualist culture :( There’s no place for singles in hell world