I hate that about some religious groups. Be upfront on where you stand on social issues. Put it on your website and in your pamphlets. If you have no shame in your love of God, and God guides you in all things, then own up to your bullshit so people don’t waste their time. Stop hiding behind, “God loves everyone,” when what you really want to say is, “You will never be married in this church.” I’m atheist but I used to be a believer. If they won’t tell you upfront that they will support who you marry (and will marry you in their church), or adopting children, or how you express your understanding yourself, keep walking.