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  • carpoftruth [any, any]
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    1 month ago

    What's wrong with talking to her some more and then asking her out? Don't overthink it Mr art class. The longer you sit with a crush, the weirder your energy will get

    • Lussy [any, hy/hym]
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      1 month ago

      Yeah, sitting on a crush, just letting your sexual tension simmer while having limited interactions with a girl is far less cute than guys picture in their heads.

      He’s talking about wanting to marry this person, like dude, you needed to be direct and engage in a far deeper conversation yesterday. Months of few interactions…that’s not usually a recipe for anything good. Right now your only hope is a quick and casual conversation, suddenly finding rapport on something you share extreme mutual interest in, and then being as assertive as possible in asking them out. The window is really small for OP for things to not be awkward right now and making a rejection as comfortable as possible for her, he’s literally shitting where he eats, but there’s always a shot i guess.

    • TankieTanuki [he/him]
      hexagon
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      1 month ago

      I don't have any tattoos because I don't want the feds to be able to identify me that easily. milkshake

      • EstraDoll [she/her]
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        1 month ago

        smart yet dripless. i can only dream to have your levels of pragmatism

  • EllenKelly [comrade/them]
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    1 month ago

    This joke feels weird in light of the site wide discussion about misogyny. Sorry, it's obviously nice to be infatuated, to have a crush.

    But clarifying youve spoken a few times in months when you see them what once a week for an art class? feels weird, youre falling for someone youve created in your mind. I say this because I have experienced both sides of this.

    you either need to talk to them, or leave them be. Invite them for a meal after the class or something casual, hey I'm going to get some xyz after this, would you like to come?

    That's not to say you cant have a crush, I'm probably reading into it too much, just don't be obsessive.

  • Infamousblt [any]
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    1 month ago

    If this is serious you could, the next time you find yourself chatting with her in a one on one scenario that feels natural, ask her if she wants to grab coffee or lunch or whatever after class sometime If she says yes approach that as if it is exactly that; a coffee or a lunch or whatever and nothing else and go from there. If she says no then you say no worries, see you next class and you move on and that's that. You tried and you were cool about it and everyone just goes on with their life and it's all fine.

    I think generally it's extremely difficult to just ... Talk to people. But that's usually okay to do especially in this kinda scenario. Asking once, gently and in a safe place that she can clearly say no one and not being weird about it is fine. It's not taking no for an answer or making it coerced or with strings or being weird about it that becomes the real problem. Or it's like obsessively not asking but instead staring or approaching weirdly or acting as if she owes you something that it becomes an issue.

    And if this is a bit then I missed it which happens oops.