set your goddamn pronouns, i'm asking you as a trans person. Getting misgendered, even online, can be really painful to someone experiencing gender dysphoria. Help your comrades out by normalizing the act of publicly displaying your pronouns, it makes us feel like we don't stick out as TRANS for putting pronouns on display and makes us feel safer, you know, kinda like how a nice inclusive community should feel?
Don't care/worried it will compromise opsec somehow? Simply pick the "any" pronoun, comrade! There are dozens of us!
BTW there is no reasonable "other side" to this issue, you either are willing to spend 1 second setting your pronouns to help your marginalized comrades OR you're an asshole who is putting their own feelings first over others :)
Edit: sincere thank you to the people who listened and set their pronouns! It really does make us trans people who care about this sort of thing feel safer and more accepted :)
Hmm. I suppose as a Cis male my opinion on this is not too important to the discourse. But I would agree with you. I think the main thing is, this is a forum form of social media. Nobody can see anyone's face. That means if someone has no pronouns I just refer to them in non gendered terms, which should be offensive to nobody. The fact that nobody will ever see you here means it's a lot harder to separate intentional and unintentional misuse or lack of pronoun flairs, and I don't think we should be coming down so hard just for people without a flair. Now, if this was a site with PFPs that had your face, I would say it would be a good idea, because then it's definitely a lot easier to separate people who are being intentionally transphobic and misgendering, for example. But for most people's usernames here I would never know what their preferred pronoun is, and I'd just refer to them as "they". And I don't think that's neccesarily something to have such a struggle session about, I'm fine with people not knowing my gender identity and only my name (which is ungendered) referring to me as "they" since of course they've never seen me.