• Acute_Engles [he/him, any]
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    12 hours ago

    Is it common to open with dick pic and then "hey" because that build order doesn't work on the hetero apps

    • RiotDoll [she/her, she/her]
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      12 hours ago

      on grindr it's basically a handshake and the further into transition i got the more i hated the entire app and male hookup culture generally

        • RiotDoll [she/her, she/her]
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          4 hours ago

          i respect it. the more i felt outside the clubhouse, the more i disassociated genitals from gender, the less i wanted to do with the masculine.

          which is something i've never really unpacked, but it makes a pansexual me functionally lesbian

      • NPa [he/him]
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        8 hours ago

        Dickpic opener is an old meta, it got solved when people figured out the "screenshot-and-send-to-their-wife" tech. It might work against an inexperienced dater, but at that point you're not even gaining Elo.

    • Parzivus [any]
      ·
      11 hours ago

      There's a reason that Grindr predates Tinder, that's all I'm saying

  • Weedian [he/him]
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    13 hours ago

    Over text 'have you seen my gun' sounds like a threat lol

      • 7bicycles [he/him]
        ·
        10 hours ago

        what are they gonna do, report you to the cops over your oddball message to sexual harassment?

        • FALGSConaut [comrade/them]
          ·
          10 hours ago

          I was more thinking about how uncomfortable/threatened I'd feel if someone asked me "have you seen my gun" with 0 context.

          Maybe I'm not American enough to understand but asking that out of nowhere would definitely put me on edge, especially knowing how some guys act on these dating/hookup apps (and real life tbh)

          • 7bicycles [he/him]
            ·
            10 hours ago

            I see your point but then I feel "opened with a dickpic" is critical context here

            • FALGSConaut [comrade/them]
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              8 hours ago

              You're right that Yuritopiaposadism the op's response wasn't "out of nowhere" and it goes without saying that no one should be sending unsolicited nudes, but if DickPicGuy doesn't know about DE it could be misinterpreted as Yuritopiaposadism the op threatening him with a gun in response.

              It's funny if you know DE, I was just pointing out it could be interpreted as threatening if you lacked that context

              Edited

  • AcidSmiley [she/her]
    ·
    13 hours ago

    You see mysterious strangers in the night. Leaning against unlit doorways, engaged in hushed conversation. A shadowy cabal exchanging looks, whispering in dark alleys and unmarked locales. A radical cell conspiring against the state -- and perhaps even against man and woman. Was that a secret handshake? What’s going on? Who are these secretive people? How will they accomplish their sinister and world-altering goals? And most importantly -- are you one of them? You could be. Maybe you forgot...