The rise of "inceldom" as a social phenomena was inevitable with the destruction of non-transactional social spaces and general alienation brought about by capitalism.

This is a great point and I agree, but I think it’s also worth discussing that a big contributing problem to this with cishet dating culture is how that transactional mindset persists outside of transactional spaces and then will go completely unexamined even in spaces like this one. Cishet men seem much more driven to attach their sense of happiness and self worth to sex and dating, which leads to scenarios where women end up being viewed as simply a means to achieving a personal goal. Then, when women rightfully reject this and those personal goals go unmet, women get blamed for withholding what cishet men feel they need to become normal, well-functioning happy people.

It’s almost like cishets are encouraged to treat dating like collecting points or winning achievements badges instead of just spending time with others because you enjoy their company. Cishet women also face pressure on this I think, but less related to sex and more related to long term dating, marriage, family, etc. In both cases, and especially with cishet men and sex, this seems very unhealthy and it would be much better to focus on one’s happiness and self worth first instead of relying on some stranger to magically fix you.