Some people who’ve unfortunately experienced SA say it allows them to take control over that situation and learn to process it.
I can't speak for everyone but this tracks with me. It like helps you learn to trust (im my case) men again at least within a controlled setting. Like you get to reclaim agency and practise having control of the situation again despite being tied up and slapped lmao. It's weird to explain 😖 i guess knowing you have total control to stop something when you say helps you reclaim agency that you thought you'd lost?
But like also people (lol me again on my shit) assume it's all leather and straps and masks and stuff that I'm personally really not into but like no it's just various forms of control and a dom/sub dynamic. Which had to be explained to me lmao.
I can't speak for everyone but this tracks with me. It like helps you learn to trust (im my case) men again at least within a controlled setting. Like you get to reclaim agency and practise having control of the situation again despite being tied up and slapped lmao. It's weird to explain 😖 i guess knowing you have total control to stop something when you say helps you reclaim agency that you thought you'd lost?
But like also people (lol me again on my shit) assume it's all leather and straps and masks and stuff that I'm personally really not into but like no it's just various forms of control and a dom/sub dynamic. Which had to be explained to me lmao.