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explain BDSM to me or i will fucking kill you
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BDSM stands for Boycott, Divestment, and Sanctions Movement. The goal is to economically isolate the Zionist entity and keep from funding its genocidal activities.
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The people's VOLCEL VANGUARD are on the scene! PLEASE RESERVE YOUR PRECIOUS BODILY FLUIDS FOR STRATEGIC ACTS OF MASS REVOLUTIONARY CUMMING!!!
·13 days agoWhat? Which word triggered it?
Its not edited WHAT TRIGGERED IT???
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I am not under the jurisdiction of the reactionary "v*lcel police," which is nothing more than a repackaging of kkkristian sexual mores with a leftist veneer.
I was just doing a bit.
It’s sex for former theatre kids. It’s larp sex.
To be clear I’m not clowning on people here, I am the former theatre kid doing larp sex here.
It’s a collection of theories and practices which explore the nature of power, usually with sex as a medium. I follow an ex-dominatrix who is now a personal trainer to swimmers and they’ve said that the work is very similar. Someone gives you control over them, asks you to know their limits for them, often requests degradation as a form of motivation, and ultimately thanks you for the privilege.
but still, maybe that’s the D, but why is it related to BSM? feels like a very clumsy grouping of things
It's a fairly diverse set of intimate practices, usually involving some form of power exchange.
i need a variety of nuanced perspectives to be able to distill the best take
Why anything really? Why do you enjoy whatever it is that you enjoy, and not other things?
i just feel like people generally dislike being subjected to violence and pain so i’m curious what makes this the exception
BDSM isn't entirely about pain or violence. That's the sadism and masochism part, wherein someone derives pleasure from causing pain or receiving pain, typically not specifically for the pain but the psychological element of being in a position of power or submission to someone else. The physical sensation is frequently secondary, but can be a source of additional stimulus. If you've ever gotten runner's high or felt a rush after getting a tattoo, it's sort of like that. Your body supplies endorphins after pain or exertion, and if you're already in a state of heightened sexual stimulation the pain drives you even higher and you don't really feel it, especially if your mind is preoccupied in a submissive state. If you're the dominant partner then you're probably not getting off from hurting someone, you're getting off from asserting your will onto them and seeing them get off to it.
Most BDSM inflictions of pain aren't shit like knife play or burning or strangling or anything that would even leave a mark. Depictions of BDSM in pornography are no more real than anything else in porn and are often taken to a greater extreme than anything real practitioners go for.
Sex specifically with the intent of causing pain is not what BDSM is.
Most BDSM inflictions of pain aren't shit like knife play or burning or strangling or anything that would even leave a mark.
Lmao I want to try knife play but my bf has a hard no on that
or felt a rush after getting a tattoo
Idk if it’s weird but I always enjoy the first like hour of getting a tattoo but after awhile my tolerance drops and it starts to like genuinely hurt hurt
I don’t think that’s weird at all, I think that’s your body running out of adrenaline
I had a 3 hour session once where I wasn't really bothered for the first 2.5 hours, then it hurt real bad, and then I had to crash for half an hour at the studio to get the shakes out from the adrenaline / dopamine rush. Ate a granola bar and hit the road and took a nap when I got home.
Thanks for the detailed answer. My question was indeed prompted by seeing yet another porn scene ruined by strangulation.
Having pressure applied to your blood vessels in your neck can induce a light headed feeling of euphoria, and is also a great experience of trust between the people in the act
Or so I've been told
It is!! Like people thinking choking is stopping the wind and it's like no it's putting the right amount of pressure where you said to make you feel all wooooOooOoooo.
So like im a subby gal who enjoys a good flogging. I dont know what scientifically happens, but at a certain point i am just laughing and screaming and need to be tied down because otherwise ill get too squirmy to hit safely or worse lash out at my Domme. Beyond the laughter is the blissed out not-really-present part which i just love but seldom enter.
Its really fun, and yeah the pain is an integral part of that, without it i dont laugh, or feel euphoric joy. Afterwards i may find pride in how much or how little i took. It makes me feel very close to my partner, and it tickles my sensory organs (sometimes literally), and it just overall is very very fun. Coupled with orgasm its even better. Hopefully thats helpful to you ^^
It's like a rollercoaster or spicy food. It's exhilarating and freeing. It's a chance to break serious taboos in a safe, controlled way. For me, it's a way to let go of trauma by removing the fear of certain memories.
People generally always like violence. Look at contact sports, movies, and video games. It activates a similar part of the primal brain and sex. So sometimes you cna do both at once for an extra thrill
people like looking at, or maybe inflicting damage, but not taking damage
Some do. It can be about the thrill of overcoming your limits. Or simply enjoying the little adrenaline space from a little spank. Or a hundred other things that could be idiosyncratic. Look at people talking about enjoying the pain of a good work out
Because sometimes it triggers a person's brain to release the feelgood chemicals.
The only things we really enjoy in life are dopamine, serotonin, and oxytocin.
Bud, if we had an answer for that, we'd basically have mental health solved.
No one knows for sure but there's a lot of conflicting opinions on the subject
Ok the joke answers are cool but I'm taking notes too as my partner has told me that they're into that sort of thing and it causes me to hear the air raid siren internally.
Frankly my most healthy relationships have been the ones with a serious kink component. There was so much communication over limits and expectations and safety, and that openness became a part of all other aspects of the relationship.
I get that fully. I just don't think I'm into any of it at all
Just gonna PSA that breathplay is not safe. That said, the safest way to do it is to push UP under the jaw, which should still induce the sensation without constricting blood vessels. But also there are a lot of other ways to achieve that kind of arousal that aren't dangerous. NEVER press longer than a couple seconds. Also just like don't do breathplay. Use the sides of the neck or the face and ears for intensity.
It's when you dress up in a leather suit and whip someone's ass with a paddle yelling out "who's ya daddy?!" it's an activity for adults.
I imagine it’s different for everyone but on a physical level, things can hurt in a pleasurable way, and also feeling something that feels good hits a lot harder after you’ve been feeling pain for awhile bc of the way human sensation is very relativistic
Psychologically, I think there’s something to putting your trust in someone to have that kind of power over you even though as anyone will tell you the sub is/should be the one driving the scene. Some people who’ve unfortunately experienced SA say it allows them to take control over that situation and learn to process it.
Idk paraphilias are weird
Some people who’ve unfortunately experienced SA say it allows them to take control over that situation and learn to process it.
I can't speak for everyone but this tracks with me. It like helps you learn to trust (im my case) men again at least within a controlled setting. Like you get to reclaim agency and practise having control of the situation again despite being tied up and slapped lmao. It's weird to explain 😖 i guess knowing you have total control to stop something when you say helps you reclaim agency that you thought you'd lost?
But like also people (lol me again on my shit) assume it's all leather and straps and masks and stuff that I'm personally really not into but like no it's just various forms of control and a dom/sub dynamic. Which had to be explained to me lmao.
I’d also point out that the sub is in a unique position of having no responsibility over the situation but also is the focal point of the pleasure. This might sound counterintuitive to people who don’t partake, but a proper dom is putting the sub’s pleasure as the first priority (doms who treat BDSM as an excuse to have selfish, rough sex without concern for the sub are considered a blight on the scene.)
It’s why there’s a trope of people in high power/high responsibility positions in their professional life are subs. They need to let someone else hold the reigns because for them, doing that just reminds them of work.
but a proper dom is putting the sub’s pleasure as the first priority
The dom's first priority should be the subs safety. I've kb'd a dom for missing this.
Point, usually those two are synonymous but a Dom should be aware of a sub’s limits and sometimes that means putting potential pleasure second.
Should being the key word, i think some doms get a bit carried away cos like it's horny lmao and their judgement becomes... impaired I guess lol.
It's the other way around for my boyfriend. He's like "Please bite me, cut me, scratch me, bruise me, draw blood" and I'm like "calm down, you have a doctor appointment tomorrow."
Lol, for a second I was thinking "kabedon" just really turning the tables on em
that’s true too. My current partner is mostly vanilla but she likes being tied up/doing shibari stuff sometimes for basically that kinda thing
Yeah my past girlfriend was really into BDSM for reasons you allude to here. Sadly almost every girl I have been with have told me about past instances of SA/SH.
My ex was super into bdsm and adventurous sex and never had any experience with SA but I’ve had friends that were in that situation
why does the sun rise?
are the stars just pinholes in the curtain of night?
Our best scientists are trying to figure that out as we speak.
BDSM is using alternative methods or building upon standard sources of sexual pleasure. Properly done and communicated, there are codewords, rules of engagement, communities, and classes to ensure nobody gets hurt (too badly). After what differentiates kink from abuse can be summed up with SSC (safe, sane, consensual).
That's the OEM branding on guitar manufacturer B.C. Rich's stock humbucking pickups. They're a medium-high output variant of the old Gibson "PAF" (patent-applied-for) design, but suffer from some "built to price-point" issues; namely, poor design re: magnet wire gauge vs. number of windings, cheap ceramic magnets used as a messy method of boosting output (at the cost of signal clarity), and inconsistent materials in the polepiece slugs. The end result is a pickup that sounds OK for low-gain applications, but quickly becomes muddy or "woofy" (due to over-represented bass and low-mid frequencies) as more gain is applied to the signal chain. B.C. Rich also did some strange experiments involving molex quick-disconnect plugs inside the BDSM-equipped guitars' control cavities, which meant that the stock electronics were not reusable by owners looking to upgrade.
In the end, BDSM pickups were about power dynamics -- too much power applied incoherently, and not enough dynamics.
Big Drunk Satanic Massacre is a game with good mechanics but also an "identifies as an attack helicopter" joke in the first 10 minutes or so. I couldn't tell you more because I stopped playing after the first ten minutes or so for obvious reasons.
If we consider casual sex bdsm is it's complimentary system. Ranked competitive sex. You know when you try a cool new sex move and it is rad and fun? BDSM is when you incorporate many non sex kinds of stimulation to make even cooler and elaborate sex moves. Not everyone is into it. However the ideas of personal growth, extraction, and communication would be good for everyone.
If you really want to learn more there are books and websites I can recommend but I don't know if I'm allowed to say any of that here so I'll need some kind of pass from at least 3 mods before I say anything
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