I keep hearing that this is frowned upon, but I cannot help it. After I share, I circle back and explain how and why I connected the two stories to try to recenter the other person. Is this annoying? How do you want ND people to respond in that case?

  • StillNoLeftLeft [none/use name, she/her]
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    14 hours ago

    An assumption of needing hard and fast rules because deficient parsing of tone and flow is peak NTness.

    And honestly communication does come with pretty stern (unwritten) rules, the people doing them just don't necessarily notice them, because they are very automatic and given. The NT rules have a lot of aspects like face-saving that can be entirely foreign to ND people. And on the other hand the upfrontness of ND people can be very umcomfy to NT people.

    The rules are only noticed when someone does not follow them and this is where people with different communication styles get into trouble.