• KnilAdlez [none/use name]
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    21 hours ago

    What's the point of a polycule if you all live in different places? Damn, that's so much money wasted on rent.

    • TraschcanOfIdeology [they/them, comrade/them]
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      18 hours ago

      I don't necessarily want to live with someone I'm dating, at least in the early stages? Not all polycules are super committed relationships, or not everyone in the polycule is ay the same stage.

      • LaughingLion [any, any]
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        12 hours ago

        its not my lifestyle but from the few people irl i know who do the poly thing its generally like this there is a primary couple and then like 2 or 3 people who are part of it but those people are a bit more casual it seems... i dunno

    • RNAi [he/him]
      hexagon
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      19 hours ago

      What's the point of a polycule if you all live together?

      • CrawlMarks [he/him]
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        13 hours ago

        Saves on rent and easier access to leftovers. As a polyamorous person myself there is an aspect where you appreciate being part of the destruction of the standard liberal American relationship model as well.

        • RNAi [he/him]
          hexagon
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          16 hours ago

          I enjoy my family but I also enjoy being alone

          • LaughingLion [any, any]
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            12 hours ago

            ive been living with my wife for like 20 years i couldnt imagine not having someone in another room i couldnt have a quick adhd stim where i have to run in there and tell them the interesting (to me) thing i just heard real quick like im 5 years old

            youd think 20 years of her sighing and pausing her tv show to hear me out (and not be interested in it all) would have driven her away by now but this is our routine and im not changing at this point in my life so

          • keepcarrot [she/her]
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            16 hours ago

            I enjoy being alone, but I don't enjoy it as much as the 50% of my pay cheque that would otherwise be going to rent

          • SpiderFarmer [he/him]
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            16 hours ago

            Can relate. For a while I was going literal months without getting an hour (even a minute )alone at the place. Both my roommates finally held some stable work over the holidays and it was amazing.

            • RNAi [he/him]
              hexagon
              ·
              16 hours ago

              Did you had your own room at least?

              • SpiderFarmer [he/him]
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                16 hours ago

                Thankfully yes, though I can't always keep it closed because my cat gets nosy, then loses interest, then gets nosy again. I can ride the high I got from having 5 hours to myself last month, but it can be really needling to live with introverts that work part time.

                Might plan out a camping trip in the spring just to get away from people.

    • barrbaric [he/him]
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      20 hours ago

      Jesus, two secret families just seems like a lot of work.

      • RNAi [he/him]
        hexagon
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        19 hours ago

        Hold on so this guy had three different families at the same time?

        What's the fucking point of living three lies

      • IMF_DOOM [she/her]
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        17 hours ago

        My ex-uncle had like three or four and ngl he was pretty good at managing it all for decades so no one knew until it suddenly all fell apart five or six years ago

  • AOCapitulator [they/them, she/her]
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    17 hours ago

    I mean, surely you would decide the order based on location and dangerous areas right? Like? If you're the farthest one and you get picked up last that makes sense?

    Doesn't seem like that was the situation for her in this case tho based on tone

    • keepcarrot [she/her]
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      16 hours ago

      Yeah, that was my first thought. Triage but for picking people up in the polycule

  • NotLuigi [they/them]
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    22 hours ago

    Wouldn’t you just pick up whoever’s closest first? Like plan out a route to pick up everyone as quickly as possible?

    • mar_k [he/him]
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      17 hours ago

      one's exactly 6ft to ur left, another 6ft to ur right. two 200lb pieces of debris fall on both in the same position. both have equal chances of survival. who you running to, the cynical yet passionate she/they with short red hair and a warm smile, or the fierce yet tenderhearted enby who plays guitar and will always be your shoulder?

      • xj9 [they/them, she/her]
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        edit-2
        22 hours ago

        gods, can you imagine? like bitch I'm driving around in a fire picking y'all bottoms up, if you're third its because I gotta drive in a god damn circle to pick all y'all up. second, do you not have car? in fucking LA? (hypothetically, cuz I don't have bitches and I don't have a car)

  • CyborgMarx [any, any]
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    21 hours ago

    As an aside there are alot of break up posts getting posted on Tik Tok today over the fires

    • RNAi [he/him]
      hexagon
      ·
      19 hours ago

      Why? People dump their partners if they don't have a house anymore?

      Hmm, I wouldn't be surprised if it was that

      • CyborgMarx [any, any]
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        18 hours ago

        Alot of relationships can't handle a day's worth of stress or couples see how their counterpart behaves in emergencies for the first time and people get the ick

        At least that seems to be the common pattern for the videos I've watched

    • NotThatKindOfFedPosting [she/her]
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      20 hours ago

      lGPL licensing of your intentionally buggy djikstra implementation to deflect from the fact that yes you did pick favorites