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    • TheUrbanaSquirrel [she/her]
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      4 years ago

      Cognitive behavioral therapy. You’ve been robbed of the decision tree that helps you determine whether someone is a threat. You need someone to help guide you through your emotions and explore them in a safe place. I’m sorry you were abused, but that doesn’t define who you are. Now that you are older (and hopefully away from that situation) you get to define who you are. Yes, you have a problem to work on, but that is just one aspect of the special, complex, and loving individual you are. Another thing: You need to love yourself like the parent you never had. You need to talk to yourself with the same unconditional compassion you’d feel for an abandoned child. Radical love.

      • ItGoesItGoes [he/him]
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        4 years ago

        I was really touched by your response, comrade. I'm even shocked someone on the internet can be so warm with a stranger, this community is great, and you are great, comrade. Thank you <3.

        I will look into everything you guys are recommending. Cognitive behavioural therapy might help me, it was precisely because my girlfriend that I was able to explore my emotions and regain much of the self-esteem that I lost during those years.

        Again, I can't stress it enough: thank you.

    • wheeldog [none/use name]
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      4 years ago

      This might seem a little wu-wu but I have been doing this meditation for a few weeks and it really helps. Trans-generational trauma is pretty real, I am really a lot like you in that I am crippled by abuse. I had to get on disability and travel around seeking a way to get in touch with my inner self... whatever you do, good luck to you https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bTQcFfniDvY

      • ItGoesItGoes [he/him]
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        4 years ago

        I'm always open to try new things, especially when they can improve one's life. Thank you, comrade <3.

    • Abraxiel
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      4 years ago

      Practice with exposure therapy I guess.

    • sappho [she/her]
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      4 years ago

      This may not apply to you because I have CPTSD but it sounds a bit like being triggered. I don't react like that but I know some people do. I'm just mentioning this because if your issue is trauma-related and deeply rooted in your nervous system, as opposed to being a more normal-person mental health issue, CBT is not the right choice. Nor is exposure therapy. You need treatments meant for PTSD specifically and those that are not can make things worse.

    • steely_its_a_dildo [any]
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      4 years ago

      I've experienced some of this and I know someone who still suffers in this way. I don't know them very well, but I can see it in their face. I want to help them, but I am not sure I can because I think they see their high school bullies (from ten years ago) in me somehow. It hurts my heart. Trust is something bullies abuse and it's no surprise they are like this imo.

      Just know that I want you to feel good about yourself and I'd like to see you around here more. :Care-Comrade: