My whole family is poor rednecks who all came from Kansas. My wife's family is poor rednecks who came from Indiana. None of them have any material interest in voting Trump and some of the people in my generation have broken away from it but most of them are still all for Trump on both sides of our family.

My father in law is straight up emotionally abusive to my wife. He shot her with a bb gun when she was a child just for fun on multiple occasions and is constantly demeaning and rude to her. And then after a couple days or hours or years he will out of the blue apologize. He apologized for shooting her with the bb gun about 10 years after the last incident.

When he ranted at her to go be with the damned and called her a lost cause it took him 4 hours to call and say that he loves her. He didn't actually say sorry but just asked if she was mad at him. I think he should be cut out of her life, especially with the stress he brings and her being pregnant. However her mom, sister and brother all still live there and she doesn't want to cut them out so she told him no. I don't want to strain and stress her anymore than she already is so I haven't pushed it.

I have tried to be patient and be forgiving but I think a lot of these people are lost to me. If someone wants to make an attempt to be better I am here for it. I was a shitty ass teenager until I was about 15. But actual adults who still hold these beliefs just aren't worth the argument for me a lot of the time.