I'm oscillating between overwhelming joy and crushing anxiety. I'm not sure what type of world I'll be bringing this child into, but I'm still deeply excited.
Does anyone have resources on parenting books by communists? I'm anxious and I want to feel like I'm doing something, but I don't want a parenting book written by some consultant fuck, if I can avoid it.
You ever need help or anything drop me a line. I have read every baby book going and helped with child care since I was 13 (I have 5 siblings, so you know). Big thing though - always stay calm. You got this.
Also the mother is going to need you way more than you or her think and she will find it hard to see your contributions when she's in the midst of things. Don't take that personally. Every mother does it, it's basically because her body and mind go into mother and child mode and discount everything else as irrelevant information.
Honestly kudos for taking things seriously and not panicking. My mum's abusive boyfriend was 50 and he panicked, denied responsibility and tried to prevent anyone from finding out. You're already doing better than he did.