My friend is a member of the LGBT community and lives with her partner and her partner’s brother. The house is owned by the partner. The brother is a CHUD, just sits in his room all day and is a (at least from what I can tell) alt right adjacent if not a full on q fanatic/neo nazi.
Recently my friend and the brother have been getting into rows. The brother can’t accept why the friend would be happy trump lost, friend can’t understand how the brother would vote to harm the people he lived with.
Does anyone have advice or tactics on how she can have a meaningful conversation with the brother? Maybe a video she can watch or something she can read to help her gain some tools to ease the animosity in her household?
Thanks
Maybe she can push chud arguments? I.e. you believe in that family matters, yet you fight with your own sister over something internet stranger thinks? Curious.
Depends on the subcategory of chuddery honestly. Even some og nazis were at the same time helping their friends to hide or obfuscate their family history, people usually care about their relatives more just by nature.
So the brother's sibling is also LGBT right? If the brother cares about his sibling, then you should be able to appeal to him by talking about how bad Trump has been for LGBT people and how that relates to your friend's partner.
That's what spawned the most recent row. His cognitive dissonance is impressive
She can't. If he's in that deep nothing she says will change it, in fact, its more likely her trying to change him will reinforce the beliefs. Maybe the partner could have a shot at deprogramming but it will take a long time and have to be their own genuine attmepts to save their brother rather than a push from your friend to keep the peace: if there is perceived push from your friend the brother will dig himself deeper to avoid self-criticism. If they can't find a way to enforce peace while that attempt is made things wont end well.
The easiest thing to do is find a new place or find a way to make the brother move out (charge rent, force chores or housework or contributions to grocery shopping, etc), but even that isn't easy because he could just as easily take it out on your friend and her partner. Maybe the solution is just have rules set about not fighting over things and if he can't abide by them he has to leave.